Bosan dengan menu-menu salad yang ada? Potato Salad bisa jadi pilihan yang baru.
caranya:
Kukus kentang dan telur secukupnya di air mendidih yang sudah di beri garam.
Hancurkan menjadi satu, selagi panas, tuangkan susu putih tanpa lemak, garam, serta butter, lalu aduk hingga rata. Untuk sentuhan akhir, taburkan parutan keju di atasnya. Tempting!
Saturday, February 12, 2011
What Makes A Man Leave
What makes a man leave arelationship? How come no matter how much you love each other, some
relationships end in break-ups anyway? Often, it takes just ONE THING to ruin a wonderful relationship.
Today, we'll be talking about three of the top reasons why men leave.
Right now, think of your past relationships. Have you ever wondered why they didn't work out, even if you loved each other very much? Here are some of the most likely reasons!
REASON #1 - HE MIGHT BE SCARED OF YOU.
Surprised? I know how "unmanly" it may sound to hear a guy's actually SCARED of you. But guess what? It happens a lot in the dating game! Sometimes, a guy simply loves you SO MUCH that his mind totally goes blank when he's with you -- and that's why the relationship never takes off!
One of my readers, let's call her GD, was once in a relationship with a good friend of hers. The relationship didn't work out, but after the break-up, that was when she actually fell in love HARD
with him. And now, no matter what she tries, she can't seem to get him back again!
"We get along fine whenever we're with his friends," GD wrote to me. "But when we're alone together, he's suddenly nervous and jittery. He doesn't seem to want to talk about the relationship, and it's almost like he wants to get away from me. Alex, does he find me unattractive?"
GD, I don't think he finds you unattractive. In fact, I think he actually LOVES you, too! But yes, I do see a problem -- it seems that even though he has feelings for you too, he simply doesn't know how to handle you. That's why he seems so nervous around you! So here's my advice -- keep spending time with him.
Little by little, show him (don't tell him) that he can trust you with anything. Show him that he can tell you anything, no matter how secret or naughty or embarrassing it might be. Why? Simple...
The first thing he needs to be is COMFORTABLE with you! If he seems nervous around you, it could be because he's worried about turning you off or offending you. When you feel this is the case, try to
make him more comfortable by having an "anything goes" approach to yourconversation. Got it? Good. Let's move on to the second top reason why men leave:
REASON #2 - YOU DEPEND TOO MUCH ON HIM.
Another reason why men leave their relationships is because their girlfriends or wives depend too much on them. True, it's the guy's job to keep the relationship stable.
But sometimes, when the woman does too little, then the pressure gets too much for him to bear -- and he starts looking for the easy way out. Another one of my readers, KC, has been in-and-out of her relationship with her man since 1998. That's right -- in-and-out for almost 13 whole years! Could you believe it? But that was KC's reality, and she explained it well in her e-mail to me:"I don't understand why our relationship isn't working," KC wrote. "I've put him ahead of me. I'm willing to sacrifice my integrity just to make him happy and keep the relationship together. I simply can't live without him, Alex -- I'd rather die than not have him by my side! What can I do?"
KC, I hate to break it to you, but I've a feeling that since you pin too much of your happiness on him, you're putting him under a LOT of pressure. After all, he has his own happiness to worry about, too – taking responsibility for the happiness of TWO people might be a little too much for him.
So here's my (painful) advice – for your sake and his sake, let go of your dependence on him. Learn to stand on your own two feet. Learn to depend on YOURSELF for your own happiness. The easier the relationship becomes for him, the easier it will be for him to stay!
Ironically, "letting go" actually encourages him to stay...When you let go of your dependence on him, and simply let him know that you'll always be there for him, then he'll be more likely to realize that you ARE the best person to spend the rest of his life with. Don't push the issue -- invite him in!
Now let's move on to the third top reason why he may have broken up with you:
#3 - HE'S NOT READY FOR THE RESPONSIBILITY.
Let's face the sad fact -- most men out there simply aren't ready for the responsibilities of a serious
relationship. The reasons vary...Sometimes they love being single too much. Sometimes they haven't recovered from a bad relationship yet. And sometimes they're just jerks!
Our third reader e-mail today comes from DA. The man in her life still hasn't recovered from a bad past relationship, and is actually still in love with his ex-girlfriend. DA, for her part, does what she can to support him and love him -- sometimes, a little too much...
"I always console him whenever he misses his ex-girlfriend," DA writes. "One night, when he was particularly lonely, I actually let him into the bedroom and had comfort sex with him. Later on, he
told me that while he DID love me, he felt I didn't deserve someone messed up like him. What should I do?" DA, I think it's pretty obvious – he simply isn't ready for a new relationship.
He's not ready to take responsibility for a new relationship when he's still "tying up loose ends" in a previous one. And if a guy isn't ready for the responsibilities, then your relationship will ALWAYS be unstable and unsure! So here's my advice: Simply be there for him.
I've a feeling he feels ashamed, since he's torn between two women and you're the one who's suffering the most. Don't make the mistake of FORCING him to forget his ex-girlfriend -- it's insensitive, and he'll resent it! Instead, gently let him know about YOUR wishes for the relationship. For instance, tell him: "I love you, and I'm very much looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you. But if you need time to sort your feelings, I won't stop you. Just remember that I'll always be here for you." See? Now he knows what YOU want, and that you're not holding his problems against him. It's a big step in making him realize that you really ARE better for him than his ex-girlfriend -- and it'll motivate him to truly, finally close that chapter in his life, and start a new one with you!
relationships end in break-ups anyway? Often, it takes just ONE THING to ruin a wonderful relationship.
Today, we'll be talking about three of the top reasons why men leave.
Right now, think of your past relationships. Have you ever wondered why they didn't work out, even if you loved each other very much? Here are some of the most likely reasons!
REASON #1 - HE MIGHT BE SCARED OF YOU.
Surprised? I know how "unmanly" it may sound to hear a guy's actually SCARED of you. But guess what? It happens a lot in the dating game! Sometimes, a guy simply loves you SO MUCH that his mind totally goes blank when he's with you -- and that's why the relationship never takes off!
One of my readers, let's call her GD, was once in a relationship with a good friend of hers. The relationship didn't work out, but after the break-up, that was when she actually fell in love HARD
with him. And now, no matter what she tries, she can't seem to get him back again!
"We get along fine whenever we're with his friends," GD wrote to me. "But when we're alone together, he's suddenly nervous and jittery. He doesn't seem to want to talk about the relationship, and it's almost like he wants to get away from me. Alex, does he find me unattractive?"
GD, I don't think he finds you unattractive. In fact, I think he actually LOVES you, too! But yes, I do see a problem -- it seems that even though he has feelings for you too, he simply doesn't know how to handle you. That's why he seems so nervous around you! So here's my advice -- keep spending time with him.
Little by little, show him (don't tell him) that he can trust you with anything. Show him that he can tell you anything, no matter how secret or naughty or embarrassing it might be. Why? Simple...
The first thing he needs to be is COMFORTABLE with you! If he seems nervous around you, it could be because he's worried about turning you off or offending you. When you feel this is the case, try to
make him more comfortable by having an "anything goes" approach to yourconversation. Got it? Good. Let's move on to the second top reason why men leave:
REASON #2 - YOU DEPEND TOO MUCH ON HIM.
Another reason why men leave their relationships is because their girlfriends or wives depend too much on them. True, it's the guy's job to keep the relationship stable.
But sometimes, when the woman does too little, then the pressure gets too much for him to bear -- and he starts looking for the easy way out. Another one of my readers, KC, has been in-and-out of her relationship with her man since 1998. That's right -- in-and-out for almost 13 whole years! Could you believe it? But that was KC's reality, and she explained it well in her e-mail to me:"I don't understand why our relationship isn't working," KC wrote. "I've put him ahead of me. I'm willing to sacrifice my integrity just to make him happy and keep the relationship together. I simply can't live without him, Alex -- I'd rather die than not have him by my side! What can I do?"
KC, I hate to break it to you, but I've a feeling that since you pin too much of your happiness on him, you're putting him under a LOT of pressure. After all, he has his own happiness to worry about, too – taking responsibility for the happiness of TWO people might be a little too much for him.
So here's my (painful) advice – for your sake and his sake, let go of your dependence on him. Learn to stand on your own two feet. Learn to depend on YOURSELF for your own happiness. The easier the relationship becomes for him, the easier it will be for him to stay!
Ironically, "letting go" actually encourages him to stay...When you let go of your dependence on him, and simply let him know that you'll always be there for him, then he'll be more likely to realize that you ARE the best person to spend the rest of his life with. Don't push the issue -- invite him in!
Now let's move on to the third top reason why he may have broken up with you:
#3 - HE'S NOT READY FOR THE RESPONSIBILITY.
Let's face the sad fact -- most men out there simply aren't ready for the responsibilities of a serious
relationship. The reasons vary...Sometimes they love being single too much. Sometimes they haven't recovered from a bad relationship yet. And sometimes they're just jerks!
Our third reader e-mail today comes from DA. The man in her life still hasn't recovered from a bad past relationship, and is actually still in love with his ex-girlfriend. DA, for her part, does what she can to support him and love him -- sometimes, a little too much...
"I always console him whenever he misses his ex-girlfriend," DA writes. "One night, when he was particularly lonely, I actually let him into the bedroom and had comfort sex with him. Later on, he
told me that while he DID love me, he felt I didn't deserve someone messed up like him. What should I do?" DA, I think it's pretty obvious – he simply isn't ready for a new relationship.
He's not ready to take responsibility for a new relationship when he's still "tying up loose ends" in a previous one. And if a guy isn't ready for the responsibilities, then your relationship will ALWAYS be unstable and unsure! So here's my advice: Simply be there for him.
I've a feeling he feels ashamed, since he's torn between two women and you're the one who's suffering the most. Don't make the mistake of FORCING him to forget his ex-girlfriend -- it's insensitive, and he'll resent it! Instead, gently let him know about YOUR wishes for the relationship. For instance, tell him: "I love you, and I'm very much looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you. But if you need time to sort your feelings, I won't stop you. Just remember that I'll always be here for you." See? Now he knows what YOU want, and that you're not holding his problems against him. It's a big step in making him realize that you really ARE better for him than his ex-girlfriend -- and it'll motivate him to truly, finally close that chapter in his life, and start a new one with you!
-Alexandra Fox-
Friday, February 11, 2011
Keraguan
Kamu harus membiarkan dia menjadi dirinya sendiri, melakukan tugas-tugasnya, dan kehidupannya. Yang harus kamu lakukan adalah diam di tempatmu Gi..Bersabarlah, berbesar hatilah..kamu pasti bisa.
Godaan cinta terbesar adalah sikap yang posesif, dan ini tidak baik. Sifat ini bisa menjadikanmu seorang wanita yang clingy, dan needy. Menjadikan seseorang penuntut dan demanding. Jangan sampai hal ini terjadi padamu. Kamu sedang di bimbing Allah untuk belajar mengenai cinta. Belajar bagaimana mencintai seseorang. Ketika kamu mencintai, kamu harus bisa menyeimbangkan egomu. Harus belajar bijaksana, belajar melihat kebutuhan orang lain, belajar memahami orang lain, belajar menahan diri, dan lain-lain.
Cinta itu tidak boleh diminta..cinta itu harus datang dari lubuk hatinya yang terdalam. Aku menghargai segala usahanya. Aku harus mengingatkan diriku sendiri bahwa Allah pasti akan memberi kan gantinya..seseorang yang memang untukku. Bukan dia, tapi yang lain. Ah sudahlah..mari terus berjalan ke depan.
Ini bukan cinta sejati..BUKAN..
What Men Find Irresistable
How many opportunities at love and happiness did you miss last year? I'd like you to resolve to STOP making dating mistakes this year, and learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, more seductive, and more irresistible to the men you meet!
We're well into the New Year. How are you doing in the dating-and-relationships part of things so far?
No matter how well or how badly you're doing, I'd like you to stick with me, and resolve to reduce the things you do that make men run, and instead learn the skills you need to ATTRACT them into your life!
Yes, I'm talking about becoming absolutely, completely IRRESISTIBLE to the men you meet. I want you to become so fantastically attractive that it doesn't matter who you meet -- they can't help but feel SMITTEN by your seductive charm!
And to get started, I'd like you to make these 3 "New Year's Resolutions" that are practically guaranteed to make you more attractive INSTANTLY.
RESOLUTION #1 - STOP PLAYING MIND GAMES.
These days, it seems like we women are "wired" to play mind games with the men in our lives. It's like dating and relationships have their own brand of "politics!" For instance, whenever we feel neglected
by our men, we try to make him jealous-- such as by meeting new men and having them text, call, or post on our Facebook walls.
Ladies, I'd like you to stop playing these mind games. They may be fun sometimes, and they may swing things in your favor for a short while. But they never work for the long-term, no matter how well you play these games! Trust me -- when you keep playing mind games, you'll either end up with a weak,
immature man who gets manipulated too easily, or you'll watch helplessly as he stops putting up with your games and walks away, leaving you utterly alone and miserable!
RESOLVE TO BE MORE EMOTIONALLY-MATURE THIS 2011
You know what men find REALLY irresistible? It's a woman who's strong, confident, and independent.
These are the women who can take care of themselves, living fabulous lives with or without a man in the picture. And, yes, I want you to be one!
Strong, confident, and independent women are a rarity these days -- which is basically why they're so in-demand. Men absolutely LOVE being with women who don't need to be "handled with care." They love spending less time babying you, and more time building the relationship!
To become stronger, more confident, and more independent, I suggest you start small. Take note of the challenges that come your way this year, whether it's at work, at home, or in dating. And as they come, instead of complaining or feeling weak, resolve to stand up and face them -- and come out stronger on
the other side!
RESOLUTION #2 - STOP CRITICIZING HIM.
I'm sure there are times when you want to be "in charge" of things in your relationship. And when things aren't going too well in the relationship, you point it out to your boyfriend and tell him how things are "supposed to be done." Or sometimes, it's the other way around -- you let your boyfriend "take charge"
of things, but when you feel he's not doing a good enough job, you call him out.
Ladies, criticism almost never works for the better in a relationship. It puts him under pressure, it makes him feel less of a man, and it doesn't fix the problem. So I suggest you take a different approach. Instead of accusing him of doing and being things he's not supposed to be, start treating him like the man you want him to be!
RESOLVE TO RESPECT HIM FOR WHO HE IS
I'm sure there are times when you want to be "in charge" of things in your relationship. And when things aren't going too well in the relationship, you point it out to your boyfriend and tell him how things are "supposed to be done." Or sometimes, it's the other way around -- you let your boyfriend "take charge"
of things, but when you feel he's not doing a good enough job, you call him out.
Ladies, criticism almost never works for the better in a relationship. It puts him under pressure, it makes him feel less of a man, and it doesn't fix the problem. So I suggest you take a different approach. Instead of accusing him of doing and being things he's not supposed to be, start treating him like the man you want him to be!
RESOLVE TO RESPECT HIM FOR WHO HE IS
JY, a friend of mine, once told me that she had high standards for her "ideal boyfriend" -- tall, handsome, lean, smart, hardworking, and successful. "But most of all," she said, "he has to accept me for who I am."
That's when I asked her, "Don't you think you should accept him for who he is, too?"
Everyone -- you, me, the people we meet, everyone -- has their quirks! And if you don't tolerate the quirks of the men you meet, then it's likely they're not going to tolerate your own quirks, as well -- and you'll never see eye-to-eye.
But when you know he's not perfect -- but you say, "I love him anyway" – guys LOVE that! And they'll love you for that, too. And the more you respect him for who he is, the more compelled he'll feel to be
a good partner and take good care of the relationship!
RESOLUTION #3 - GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
Here's a trap that many of us fall into -- once we settle into a "good" relationship, we struggle to keep things the way we want them to be. We resist any change to the routines we've gotten used to with our
boyfriends. In other words, we settle into a "comfort zone" of sorts.
And comfort zones never serve you well. In business, for instance, it's been predicted that the skills that keep money flowing into your life today will be obsolete four years from now. And the only way to keep pace with the growing world is to grow with it!
The same thing goes for dating and relationships. If you don't grow – if you don't learn new things and rise to the challenges that come your way -- then you tend to get rancid.
Your boyfriend will grow tired of taking care of you, and he'll start looking for a way out. Trust me, yo do NOT want that to happen this year!
RESOLVE TO KEEP GETTING BETTER AT THE DATING GAME.
One of the simplest and easiest ways to be irresistible to the men you meet is to always, always bring new things to the table. Trust me -- it's fun learning new "dating game techniques," and then actually going out there and trying them out for yourself. And, yes, it's fun for the men you meet, too!
When you constantly get better at the dating game, you'll also constantly meet better and better men.
And eventually, there will be a time when you finally find the best one in the bunch -- one who's actually willing to sit down and talk about the future with you!
WILL YOU MEET HIM THIS YEAR?
It depends! If you keep getting better at the dating game, and if you keep meeting new and better men every single week, then yes -- I'm pretty sure you'll meet "the one" this year!
That's when I asked her, "Don't you think you should accept him for who he is, too?"
Everyone -- you, me, the people we meet, everyone -- has their quirks! And if you don't tolerate the quirks of the men you meet, then it's likely they're not going to tolerate your own quirks, as well -- and you'll never see eye-to-eye.
But when you know he's not perfect -- but you say, "I love him anyway" – guys LOVE that! And they'll love you for that, too. And the more you respect him for who he is, the more compelled he'll feel to be
a good partner and take good care of the relationship!
RESOLUTION #3 - GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.
Here's a trap that many of us fall into -- once we settle into a "good" relationship, we struggle to keep things the way we want them to be. We resist any change to the routines we've gotten used to with our
boyfriends. In other words, we settle into a "comfort zone" of sorts.
And comfort zones never serve you well. In business, for instance, it's been predicted that the skills that keep money flowing into your life today will be obsolete four years from now. And the only way to keep pace with the growing world is to grow with it!
The same thing goes for dating and relationships. If you don't grow – if you don't learn new things and rise to the challenges that come your way -- then you tend to get rancid.
Your boyfriend will grow tired of taking care of you, and he'll start looking for a way out. Trust me, yo do NOT want that to happen this year!
RESOLVE TO KEEP GETTING BETTER AT THE DATING GAME.
One of the simplest and easiest ways to be irresistible to the men you meet is to always, always bring new things to the table. Trust me -- it's fun learning new "dating game techniques," and then actually going out there and trying them out for yourself. And, yes, it's fun for the men you meet, too!
When you constantly get better at the dating game, you'll also constantly meet better and better men.
And eventually, there will be a time when you finally find the best one in the bunch -- one who's actually willing to sit down and talk about the future with you!
WILL YOU MEET HIM THIS YEAR?
It depends! If you keep getting better at the dating game, and if you keep meeting new and better men every single week, then yes -- I'm pretty sure you'll meet "the one" this year!
Filosofi Sebuah Pernikahan
"Semoga Allah SWT menghimpun yang terserak dari keduanya memberkati mereka berdua,meningkatkan kualitas keturunannya sebagai pembuka pintu rakhmat, sumber ilmu
dan hikmah serta pemberi rasa aman bagi umat."
(Doa Nabi Muhammad SAW, pada pernikahan putrinya Fatimah Az Zahra dengan Ali bin Abi Thalib)
Filosofi dari Sebuah "Ikatan Pernikahan"
dan hikmah serta pemberi rasa aman bagi umat."
(Doa Nabi Muhammad SAW, pada pernikahan putrinya Fatimah Az Zahra dengan Ali bin Abi Thalib)
Filosofi dari Sebuah "Ikatan Pernikahan"
UNTUK SUAMI
(Sebuah Syair Renungan Singkat Bagi Laki-laki)
Pernikahan atau perkawinan, Menyingkap tabir rahasia ...
Isteri yang kamu nikahi,
Tidaklah semulia Khadijah,
Tidaklah setaqwa Aisyah,
Pun tidak setabah Fatimah ...
Justru Isteri hanyalah wanita akhir zaman,
Yang punya cita-cita, Menjadi solehah...
Pernikahan ataupun perkawinan,
Mengajar kita kewajiban bersama ...
Isteri menjadi tanah, Kamu langit penaungnya,
Isteri ladang tanaman, Kamu pemagarnya,
Isteri kiasan ternakan, Kamu gembalanya,
Isteri adalah murid, Kamu mursyid (pembimbing)-nya,
Isteri bagaikan anak kecil, Kamu tempat bermanjanya ...
Saat Isteri menjadi madu, Kamu teguklah sepuasnya,
Seketika Isteri menjadi racun, Kamulah penawar bisanya,
Seandainya Isteri tulang yang bengkok, ber-hati²lah meluruskannya ...
Pernikahan ataupun perkawinan,
Menginsafkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa ...
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan ridho,
Karena memiliki Isteri yang tak sehebat mana,
Justru kamu akan tersentak dari alpa,
Kamu bukanlah Muhammad Rasulullah atau Isa As,
Pun bukanlah Sayyidina Ali Karamaullahhuwajah,
Cuma suami akhir zaman, yang berusaha menjadi soleh ... Amiiin
UNTUK ISTRI
(Sebuah Syair Renungan Singkat Bagi Wanita)
Pernikahan ataupun perkawinan,
Membuka tabir rahasia,
Suami yang menikahi kamu,
Tidaklah semulia Muhammad, Tidaklah setaqwa Ibrahim,
Pun tidak setabah Isa atau Ayub,
Atau pun segagah Musa, apalagi setampan Yusuf
Justru suamimu hanyalah pria akhir zaman,
Yang punya cita-cita, Membangun keturunan yang soleh ...
Pernikahan ataupun Perkawinan,
Mengajar kita kewajiban bersama,
Suami menjadi pelindung, Kamu penghuninya,
Suami adalah Nakoda kapal, Kamu navigatornya,
Suami bagaikan balita yang nakal, Kamulah penuntun kenakalannya,
Saat Suami menjadi Raja, Kamu nikmati anggur singasananya,
Seketika Suami menjadi bisa, Kamulah penawar obatnya,
Seandainya Suami masinis yang lancang, sabarlah memperingatkannya
Pernikahan ataupun Perkawinan,
Mengajarkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa,
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan ridho,
Karena memiliki suami yang tak segagah mana,
Justru Kamu akan tersentak dari alpa,
Kamu bukanlah Khadijah, yang begitu sempurna di dalam menjaga
Pun bukanlah Hajar ataupun Mariam, yang begitu setia dalam sengsara
Cuma wanita akhir zaman, yang berusaha menjadi solehah
Pernikahan atau perkawinan, Menyingkap tabir rahasia ...
Isteri yang kamu nikahi,
Tidaklah semulia Khadijah,
Tidaklah setaqwa Aisyah,
Pun tidak setabah Fatimah ...
Justru Isteri hanyalah wanita akhir zaman,
Yang punya cita-cita, Menjadi solehah...
Pernikahan ataupun perkawinan,
Mengajar kita kewajiban bersama ...
Isteri menjadi tanah, Kamu langit penaungnya,
Isteri ladang tanaman, Kamu pemagarnya,
Isteri kiasan ternakan, Kamu gembalanya,
Isteri adalah murid, Kamu mursyid (pembimbing)-nya,
Isteri bagaikan anak kecil, Kamu tempat bermanjanya ...
Saat Isteri menjadi madu, Kamu teguklah sepuasnya,
Seketika Isteri menjadi racun, Kamulah penawar bisanya,
Seandainya Isteri tulang yang bengkok, ber-hati²lah meluruskannya ...
Pernikahan ataupun perkawinan,
Menginsafkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa ...
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan ridho,
Karena memiliki Isteri yang tak sehebat mana,
Justru kamu akan tersentak dari alpa,
Kamu bukanlah Muhammad Rasulullah atau Isa As,
Pun bukanlah Sayyidina Ali Karamaullahhuwajah,
Cuma suami akhir zaman, yang berusaha menjadi soleh ... Amiiin
UNTUK ISTRI
(Sebuah Syair Renungan Singkat Bagi Wanita)
Pernikahan ataupun perkawinan,
Membuka tabir rahasia,
Suami yang menikahi kamu,
Tidaklah semulia Muhammad, Tidaklah setaqwa Ibrahim,
Pun tidak setabah Isa atau Ayub,
Atau pun segagah Musa, apalagi setampan Yusuf
Justru suamimu hanyalah pria akhir zaman,
Yang punya cita-cita, Membangun keturunan yang soleh ...
Pernikahan ataupun Perkawinan,
Mengajar kita kewajiban bersama,
Suami menjadi pelindung, Kamu penghuninya,
Suami adalah Nakoda kapal, Kamu navigatornya,
Suami bagaikan balita yang nakal, Kamulah penuntun kenakalannya,
Saat Suami menjadi Raja, Kamu nikmati anggur singasananya,
Seketika Suami menjadi bisa, Kamulah penawar obatnya,
Seandainya Suami masinis yang lancang, sabarlah memperingatkannya
Pernikahan ataupun Perkawinan,
Mengajarkan kita perlunya iman dan taqwa,
Untuk belajar meniti sabar dan ridho,
Karena memiliki suami yang tak segagah mana,
Justru Kamu akan tersentak dari alpa,
Kamu bukanlah Khadijah, yang begitu sempurna di dalam menjaga
Pun bukanlah Hajar ataupun Mariam, yang begitu setia dalam sengsara
Cuma wanita akhir zaman, yang berusaha menjadi solehah
Semoga saja aku bisa menjadi istri yang solehah kelak..amin..
Kecantikan Wanita Yang Sesungguhnya
Sejuta perkataan belum cukup untuk menceritakan kecantikan perempuan. Sejuta malah berjuta-juta kali ganda perkataan pun masih belum cukup untuk mendefinisikan tentang keindahan perempuan. Kitalah perempuan itu. Panjatkan kesyukuran kehadirat Tuhan kerana menjadikan kita perempuan dan memberikan keindahan-keindahan itu. Namun, betapa pun dijaga, dipelihara, dibelai dan ditatap di hadapan cermin saban waktu, tiba masanya segalanya akan pergi jua. Wajah akan suram, mata akan kelam. Satu sahaja yang tidak akan dimamah usia, sifat keperempuanan yang dipupuk dengan iman dan ibadah.
Anda ingin lebih cantik dan menarik??
# Jadikanlah Ghadhdul Bashar (menundukkan pandangan) sebagai "hiasan mata" anda, nescaya akan semakin bening dan jernih.
Allah berfirman : “Katakanlah kepada orang laki-laki yang beriman: "Hendaklah mereka menahan pandanganya, dan memelihara kemaluannya; yang demikian itu adalah lebih suci bagi mereka, sesungguhnya Allah Maha Mengetahui apa yang mereka perbuat. Katakanlah kepada wanita yang beriman: "Hendaklah mereka menahan pandangannya, dan kemaluannya, dan janganlah mereka menampakkan perhiasannya, kecuali yang (biasa) nampak dari padanya" (QS. 24 : 30-31)
# Oleskan "lipstik kejujuran" pada bibir anda, nescaya akan semakin manis.
Sesungguhnya kejujuran mengantarkan kepada kebaikan, dan kebaikan mengantarkan kepada surga. Sesungguhnya seseorang biasa berlaku jujur hingga ia disebut shiddiq (orang yang senantiasa jujur). Sedang dusta mengantarkan kepada perilaku menyimpang (dzalim) darn perilaku menyimpang mengantarkan kepada neraka. Sesungguhnya seseorang biasa berlaku dusta hingga ia disebut pendusta besar.( Abdullah bin Mas’ud RadhiyAllohu ‘anhu yang terhimpun dalam Kitab Hadits Bukhari, Muslim dan Tirmidzi. (HR Bukhari dalam shahihnya bab Adab subbab 69, jilid VII, hal 95. HR Muslim dalam shahihnya bab Al-Birr subbab 29, hadits nomor 104, jilid IV hal 2012-2013, dan HR Tirmidzi dalam sunannya bab Al-Birr subbab 46 hadits nomor 1971 jilid IV hal 347)
Jujur ialah kesesuaian ucapan dengan hati kecil dan kenyataan objek yang dikatakan (Fathul Baari, jilid X, hal 507).
Alloh Subhanahu wa Ta’ala berfirman, yang artinya: “Hai orang-orang yang beriman,bertaqwalah kepada dan hendaklah kamu bersama orang-orang yang jujur” (QS: At-Taubah: 119).
Dalam ayat lain, Alloh Subhanahu wa Ta’ala berfirman, yang artinya: “Jikalau mereka jujur kepada Alloh, niscaya yang demikian itu lebih baik bagi mereka” (QS: Muhammad: 21)
# Gunakanlah "pemerah pipi" anda dengan kosmetik yang terbuat dari rasa malu yang dibuat dari salon Iman.
Kata Ali bin Abi Thalib,“Orang yang menjadikan sifat malu sebagai pakaiannya, niscaya orang-orang tidak akan melihat aib dan cela pada dirinya.”
Kata Nabi, “Malu adalah bagian dari iman, dan keimanan itu berada di surga. Ucapan jorok berasal dari akhlak yang buruk dan akhlak yang buruk tempatnya di neraka.” (HR. Tirmidzi dalam Ktab Birr wash Shilah, hadits nomor 1932 )
# Pakailah "sabun Istighfar" yang menghilangkan semua dosa dan kesalahan yang anda lakukan.
Istighfar merupakan syiar para Anbiyaullah,tidak ada seorang nabipun yang tidak beristighfar dan selalu mengajak umatnya untuk beristighfar, Nabi Adam As dan Siti Hawa beristighfar atas dosa yang telah mereka perbuat, Firman Allah Surat Al-`Araf 23:
Keduanya berkata:
"Ya Tuhan kami, kami telah menganiaya diri kami sendiri, dan jika
Engkau tidak mengampuni kami dan memberi rahmat kepada kami, niscaya
pastilah kami termasuk orang-orang yang merugi".( Al-`Araf 23: )
# Rawatlah rambut anda dengan "Selendang Islami" yang akan menghilangkan kelemumur pandangan lelaki yang membahayakan.
“Dan janganlah menampakkan perhiasannya kecuali kepada suami mereka atau ayah mereka atau ayah
suami mereka atau putra-putra mereka atau putra-putra suami mereka atau saudara-saudara laki-laki mereka atau putra-putra saudara lelaki mereka atau putra-putra saudara perempuan mereka atau wanita-wanita Islam atau budak-budak yang mereka miliki atau pelayan-pelayan laki-laki yang tidak
mempunyai keinginan (terhadap wanita) atau anak-anak yang belum mengerti tentang aurat wanita dan janganlah mereka memukulkan kakinya agar diketahui perhiasan yang mereka sembunyikan.” (An-Nur: 31).
# Hiasilah kedua tangan anda dengan gelang Tawadhu' dan jari-jari anda dengan cincin Ukhuwwah.
Firman Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala : (Mereka) keras terhadap orang-orang kafir, tetapi berkasih sayang sesama mereka... (QS. al-Fath:29)
# Gunakanlah "pemerah pipi" anda dengan kosmetik yang terbuat dari rasa malu yang dibuat dari salon Iman.
Kata Ali bin Abi Thalib,“Orang yang menjadikan sifat malu sebagai pakaiannya, niscaya orang-orang tidak akan melihat aib dan cela pada dirinya.”
Kata Nabi, “Malu adalah bagian dari iman, dan keimanan itu berada di surga. Ucapan jorok berasal dari akhlak yang buruk dan akhlak yang buruk tempatnya di neraka.” (HR. Tirmidzi dalam Ktab Birr wash Shilah, hadits nomor 1932 )
# Pakailah "sabun Istighfar" yang menghilangkan semua dosa dan kesalahan yang anda lakukan.
Istighfar merupakan syiar para Anbiyaullah,tidak ada seorang nabipun yang tidak beristighfar dan selalu mengajak umatnya untuk beristighfar, Nabi Adam As dan Siti Hawa beristighfar atas dosa yang telah mereka perbuat, Firman Allah Surat Al-`Araf 23:
Keduanya berkata:
"Ya Tuhan kami, kami telah menganiaya diri kami sendiri, dan jika
Engkau tidak mengampuni kami dan memberi rahmat kepada kami, niscaya
pastilah kami termasuk orang-orang yang merugi".( Al-`Araf 23: )
# Rawatlah rambut anda dengan "Selendang Islami" yang akan menghilangkan kelemumur pandangan lelaki yang membahayakan.
“Dan janganlah menampakkan perhiasannya kecuali kepada suami mereka atau ayah mereka atau ayah
suami mereka atau putra-putra mereka atau putra-putra suami mereka atau saudara-saudara laki-laki mereka atau putra-putra saudara lelaki mereka atau putra-putra saudara perempuan mereka atau wanita-wanita Islam atau budak-budak yang mereka miliki atau pelayan-pelayan laki-laki yang tidak
mempunyai keinginan (terhadap wanita) atau anak-anak yang belum mengerti tentang aurat wanita dan janganlah mereka memukulkan kakinya agar diketahui perhiasan yang mereka sembunyikan.” (An-Nur: 31).
# Hiasilah kedua tangan anda dengan gelang Tawadhu' dan jari-jari anda dengan cincin Ukhuwwah.
Firman Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala : (Mereka) keras terhadap orang-orang kafir, tetapi berkasih sayang sesama mereka... (QS. al-Fath:29)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala menyuruh Nabi-Nya dengan firman-Nya: dan rendahkanlah dirimu terhadap orang-orang yang mengikutimu, yaitu orang-orang yang beriman. (QS. asy-Syu'ara :215)
Rasulullah bersabda, “Dunia adalah perhiasan, sebaik-baiknya perhiasan adalah wanita salehah.” (HR. Muslim).
Nabi Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam bersabda : Maukah kalian aku tunjukkan akhlak yang paling mulia di dunia dan diakhirat? Memberi maaf orang yang mendzalimimu, memberi orang yang menghalangimu dan menyambung silaturrahim orang yang memutuskanmu” (HR. Baihaqi)
“Maukah kalian aku tunjukkan amal yang lebih besar pahalanya daripada salat dan saum?” Sahabat menjawab, “Tentu saja!” Rasulullah pun kemudian menjelaskan, “Engkau damaikan yang bertengkar, menyambungkan persaudaraan yang terputus, mempertemukan kembali saudara-saudara yang terpisah, menjembatani berbagai kelompok dalam Islam, dan mengukuhkan ukhuwah di antara mereka, (semua itu) adalah amal saleh yang besar pahalanya. Barangsiapa yang ingin dipanjangkan usianya dan dibanyakkan rezekinya, hendaklah ia menyambungkan tali persaudaraan” (H.R. Bukhari-Muslim).
# Sebaik-baiknya kalung anda adalah kalung "kesucian".
Dari Abu Malih Al- Hudzli : Kaum perempuan kota Himsh atau penduduk syam menemui Aisyah. lalu Aisyah berkata " kalian adalah kaum perempuan yang masuk ke kamar mandi. padahal, aku mendengar Rosulullah Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam bersabda ' Siapa saja perempuan yang meletakkan pakaiannya bukan di rumah suaminya, Allah akan membuka aibnya' ". ( H. R AL-Tirmidzi, Abu Daud, AL- Hakim )
Abu Hurairah r.a pun menyebutkan, ketika turun ayat al- mula'anah ( tentang suami-istri yang saling melaknat karena dugaan perbuatan serong ) Rosulullah Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam bersabda " Siapapun perempuan yang menemui suatu kaum yang bukan kerabatnya, ia akan tidak memperoleh apapun dari Allah swt dan Dia tidak akan memasukkannya ke surga "
Dari Aisyah ra berkata : “Sesungguhnya wanita-wanita Quraisy memiliki beberapa kelebihan. Demi Allah, sesungguhnya aku tidak pernah melihat wanita lain yang lebih baik daripada wanita kaum Anshar dalam hal keimanannya terhadap kitabullah dan apa-apa yang diturunkan-Nya. Ketika turun surat An-Nur, pada potongan ayat (yang artinya) : Dan hendaknya mereka memakai kerudung sampai menutupi dada mereka. Maka saat itu pula para suami membacakan kepada anak-anak perempuan, saudara-saudara perempuan dan kerabat-kerabatnya setelah dibacakan, maka tidak ada satu wanita pun kecuali mereka memakai kerudung (jilbab) lalu mereka melipatkannya di atas kepala mereka. Hal itu dilakukan karena kepercayaan dan keimanan mereka terhadap apa yang telah diturunkan Allah dalam kitab-Nya. Kemudian tatkala mereka berada di belakang Nabi Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam , mereka terlihat sudah mengenakan jilbab. Seolah-olah di atas kepala mereka ada seekor burung ghirban.” (Hadist ini disebutkan oleh Al-Hafizh Ibnu Katsir, kemudian disandarkan kepada : Ibnu Abu Hatim)
Hadist di atas menunjukkan contoh perempuan yang tidak menjaga diri, yang akan menjerumuskan pada fitnah yang lebih besar. Nauzubillahimandzalik,.... semoga untuk para wanita termasuk yang senantiasa menjaga kesucian diri -Nya
# Bedaklah wajah anda dengan "air Wudhu" nescaya akan bercahaya di akhirat.
Umatku akan tampil pada hari kiamat dgn wajah bersinar tangan serta kakinya berkilauan dari bekas-bekas wudhu. ( Al-Hadist )
Semoga Bermanfaat untuk kaum Hawa ..
Rasulullah bersabda, “Dunia adalah perhiasan, sebaik-baiknya perhiasan adalah wanita salehah.” (HR. Muslim).
Nabi Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam bersabda : Maukah kalian aku tunjukkan akhlak yang paling mulia di dunia dan diakhirat? Memberi maaf orang yang mendzalimimu, memberi orang yang menghalangimu dan menyambung silaturrahim orang yang memutuskanmu” (HR. Baihaqi)
“Maukah kalian aku tunjukkan amal yang lebih besar pahalanya daripada salat dan saum?” Sahabat menjawab, “Tentu saja!” Rasulullah pun kemudian menjelaskan, “Engkau damaikan yang bertengkar, menyambungkan persaudaraan yang terputus, mempertemukan kembali saudara-saudara yang terpisah, menjembatani berbagai kelompok dalam Islam, dan mengukuhkan ukhuwah di antara mereka, (semua itu) adalah amal saleh yang besar pahalanya. Barangsiapa yang ingin dipanjangkan usianya dan dibanyakkan rezekinya, hendaklah ia menyambungkan tali persaudaraan” (H.R. Bukhari-Muslim).
# Sebaik-baiknya kalung anda adalah kalung "kesucian".
Dari Abu Malih Al- Hudzli : Kaum perempuan kota Himsh atau penduduk syam menemui Aisyah. lalu Aisyah berkata " kalian adalah kaum perempuan yang masuk ke kamar mandi. padahal, aku mendengar Rosulullah Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam bersabda ' Siapa saja perempuan yang meletakkan pakaiannya bukan di rumah suaminya, Allah akan membuka aibnya' ". ( H. R AL-Tirmidzi, Abu Daud, AL- Hakim )
Abu Hurairah r.a pun menyebutkan, ketika turun ayat al- mula'anah ( tentang suami-istri yang saling melaknat karena dugaan perbuatan serong ) Rosulullah Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam bersabda " Siapapun perempuan yang menemui suatu kaum yang bukan kerabatnya, ia akan tidak memperoleh apapun dari Allah swt dan Dia tidak akan memasukkannya ke surga "
Dari Aisyah ra berkata : “Sesungguhnya wanita-wanita Quraisy memiliki beberapa kelebihan. Demi Allah, sesungguhnya aku tidak pernah melihat wanita lain yang lebih baik daripada wanita kaum Anshar dalam hal keimanannya terhadap kitabullah dan apa-apa yang diturunkan-Nya. Ketika turun surat An-Nur, pada potongan ayat (yang artinya) : Dan hendaknya mereka memakai kerudung sampai menutupi dada mereka. Maka saat itu pula para suami membacakan kepada anak-anak perempuan, saudara-saudara perempuan dan kerabat-kerabatnya setelah dibacakan, maka tidak ada satu wanita pun kecuali mereka memakai kerudung (jilbab) lalu mereka melipatkannya di atas kepala mereka. Hal itu dilakukan karena kepercayaan dan keimanan mereka terhadap apa yang telah diturunkan Allah dalam kitab-Nya. Kemudian tatkala mereka berada di belakang Nabi Shallallahu Alaihi wasallam , mereka terlihat sudah mengenakan jilbab. Seolah-olah di atas kepala mereka ada seekor burung ghirban.” (Hadist ini disebutkan oleh Al-Hafizh Ibnu Katsir, kemudian disandarkan kepada : Ibnu Abu Hatim)
Hadist di atas menunjukkan contoh perempuan yang tidak menjaga diri, yang akan menjerumuskan pada fitnah yang lebih besar. Nauzubillahimandzalik,.... semoga untuk para wanita termasuk yang senantiasa menjaga kesucian diri -Nya
# Bedaklah wajah anda dengan "air Wudhu" nescaya akan bercahaya di akhirat.
Umatku akan tampil pada hari kiamat dgn wajah bersinar tangan serta kakinya berkilauan dari bekas-bekas wudhu. ( Al-Hadist )
Semoga Bermanfaat untuk kaum Hawa ..
Cinta Itu..
Cinta itu obat paling ampuh dari segala penyakit..
Cinta itu membuat seorang wanita menjadi cantik dan bersinar..
Cinta itu mampu membuat seorang pria memeluk dunia.
Cinta itu menerangi jiwa.
Cinta juga membuat segalanya menjadi mungkin.
Sejuta hal yang bisa dilakukan oleh cinta.
Aku bisa mempersingkatnya menjadi lebih mudah, bahwa cinta itu sama dengan keajaiban..Love=miracle.
Beruntunglah bagi seseorang yang menemukannya.
Cinta itu membuat seorang wanita menjadi cantik dan bersinar..
Cinta itu mampu membuat seorang pria memeluk dunia.
Cinta itu menerangi jiwa.
Cinta juga membuat segalanya menjadi mungkin.
Sejuta hal yang bisa dilakukan oleh cinta.
Aku bisa mempersingkatnya menjadi lebih mudah, bahwa cinta itu sama dengan keajaiban..Love=miracle.
Beruntunglah bagi seseorang yang menemukannya.
Once In A Life Time, Michael Bolton
Once In A Lifetime Lyrics
People fill their lives, with empty nights,
And days that slip away
Some search till the end of time, but never find,
The open arms of fate
One moment comes along, someone who’s a dream to you,
All at once your dreams come true
Chorus:
Once in a lifetime, you find the one you really love
For now and forever, one love that never ends
Once in a lifetime, when every star that lights the sky
Will shine with one reason, leading your heart to the one love you find
Just once in a lifetime
Some people live their lives in compromise,
And hide their dreams away
Some never take the chance, within their hands,
To claim the prize they make
When faith is all you need, to hold the hand of destiny,
Find the love that’s meant to be
Chorus:
If you believe in the power of love
And you believe that dreams come true
Magic will fill your heart, when that moment comes along
Just once in a lifetime
Once in a lifetime, when every star that lights the sky
Will shine with one reason, leading you home to the one love you find
Just once in a lifetime, just once in a lifetime
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Janjiku Padamu..
Aku tidak akan lagi mempertanyakan tentang ketulusanmu, aku tidak akan pernah lagi ingin tahu dimana posisiku, dan aku tidak akan lagi bertanya kemana ingin kau bawa hubungan ini? tidak lagi..Yang aku tahu saat ini hanyalah untuk mencintaimu dengan kejujuran dan ketulusan hati. Aku tidak peduli pada apapun selain perasaanku. Aku tidak buta, tapi aku hidup hanya untuk hari ini saja. Biar aku merasakan apa yang aku rasa sekarang. Bukan apa yang akan terjadi nanti..I love you today..and these feelings are genuine, and true. I am happy that you are in my life.. You mean the world to me..
Sayangku..aku menyayangimu..terima kasih karena telah hadir di dalam kehidupanku dan tetap menjagaku selalu. Tidak ada apapun yang bisa membalas kebaikanmu. Semoga Allah selalu membalas kebaikanmu terhadapku. Aku akan selalu menjagamu dan berada disisimu ketika kamu membutuhkan aku. Miss you very much darling..
Lalai Menggunakan Jam Tangan
Kemarin kami menghabiskan waktu dua jam di spa, kemudian lanjut dengan berbelanja. Waktu itu hari memang sudah agak sore dan matahari cepat sekali berubah menjadi gelap. Setelah selesai berbelanja yang cukup memakan waktu agak lama itu, kami memutuskan untuk makan di sebuah restaurant terdekat. Berhubung belanjaan kami banyak, maka kami memutuskan untuk menitipkannya di market tempat kami berbelanja. Akhirnya kami makan dan ngobrol-ngobrol sampai lupa waktu. Karena kami bertiga tidak memakai jam tangan, maka kami pikir hari masih sore, perkiraanku malam itu masih sekitar jam delapanan.
Setelah kami puas makan, kamipun beranjak dari tempat duduk kami dan langsung jalan menuju ke market tempat dimana kami menitipkan belanjaan kami. Pada saat itu, aku mengatakan,"jangan-jangan tokonya sudah tutup..bagaimana?" Begitu kami sampai..benar saja..gerbangnya hampir saja ditutup oleh petugas keamanan toko tersebut dan tokonya memang sudah TUTUP. Kemudian, kami berusaha untuk masuk dan mengatakan padanya bahwa barang kami masih ada di dalam. Ah..benar-benar keterlaluan..saking asyiknya kita makan sampai lupa waktu bahwa toko itu tutup pada pukul 10.00 malam! Yang kami kira pada saat itu masih pukul delapan malam..OMG! Untung saja, para karyawannya masih berada di dalam, dan masih sibuk melakukan pembukuan kas.
Inilah akibatnya jika menyepelekan pentingnya jam tangan. Anyway..akhirnya kami berhasil mengambil belanjaan kami yang tertinggal dan langsung pulang kerumah sambil cekikikan..
Baked Chicken Parmesan
Ingredients
- 8 thin chicken cutlets (1 1/2 pounds total)
- kosher salt and black pepper
- 1/4 cup all-purpose flour
- 2 large eggs, beaten
- 2/3 cup bread crumbs
- 1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese
- 3 tablespoons olive oil
- 1 24-ounce jar marinara sauce
- 1 pound fresh mozzarella, sliced
Directions
- Heat oven to 400ยบ F. Season the chicken with ½ teaspoon salt and ¼ teaspoon pepper.
- Place the flour and eggs in separate shallow bowls; in a third shallow bowl, combine the bread crumbs and Parmesan. Coat the chicken with the flour, then dip in the eggs (letting any excess drip off), then coat with the bread crumb mixture, pressing gently to help it adhere.
- Heat the oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Cook the chicken in batches until golden brown, about 2 minutes per side.
- Pour the marinara sauce into a large, shallow baking dish. Top with the chicken and mozzarella.
- Bake until bubbling and golden brown, 20 to 25 minutes.
By Kristen Evans, March 2010
You Are By Dolly Parton
Sometimes I try to count the ways and reasons that I love you
But I can't ever seem to count that far
I love you in a million ways and for a million reasons
More than this I love you as you are
More than this I love you as you are
You are my inspiration, you are the song I sing
You are what makes me happy, you are my everything
You are my daily sunshine, you are my ev'ning star
Ev'rything I'll ever had in mind, that's what you are
Ev'rything I'll ever want to find, is that you are
You are my thoughts when I'm awake, in my dreams when I'm asleep
You are the reason for my smile, you are the words I speak
Every role I play in life you play the leading part
Ev'rything I'd ever hope to find is what you are
Ev'rything I'd ever hope to find is what you are
You are my inspiration, you are the song I sing
You are what makes me happy, you are my everything
You are my daily sunshine, you are my ev'ning star
Ev'rything I'll ever need or want, that's what you are
Ev'rything I'll ever need or want is what you are
You are... You are
But I can't ever seem to count that far
I love you in a million ways and for a million reasons
More than this I love you as you are
More than this I love you as you are
You are my inspiration, you are the song I sing
You are what makes me happy, you are my everything
You are my daily sunshine, you are my ev'ning star
Ev'rything I'll ever had in mind, that's what you are
Ev'rything I'll ever want to find, is that you are
You are my thoughts when I'm awake, in my dreams when I'm asleep
You are the reason for my smile, you are the words I speak
Every role I play in life you play the leading part
Ev'rything I'd ever hope to find is what you are
Ev'rything I'd ever hope to find is what you are
You are my inspiration, you are the song I sing
You are what makes me happy, you are my everything
You are my daily sunshine, you are my ev'ning star
Ev'rything I'll ever need or want, that's what you are
Ev'rything I'll ever need or want is what you are
You are... You are
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