I Will Not..

"I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else's whim or to someone else's ignorance." - bell hooks

Ouchh..Help!

Hari ini, hari pertama saya keluar ke Mall setelah selama seminggu tergeletak tak berdaya di dalam kamar karena penyakit tampak yang saya derita.  Ternyata memang tidak bisa dibuat-buat kuat ya jika ternyata saya memang masih lemah.  Terbukti saya jatuh di depan umum saudara-saudara..huaa maluunyaa bukan kepalang! 

Sewaktu jatuh, saat itu saya sedang berkaca didepan cermin Breadtalk. Tidak tahu apa yang terjadi tiba-tiba saja kaki saya kehilangan kesimbangan karena lemas dan jatuhlah saya terduduk diiringi jeritan ibu-ibu yang ada disekitar saya..omg! Terlalu!  maksudku..terlalu nggak elit banget sih pake jatuh segala!

Yak langsung bangun..saat itu juga sambil menahan rasa malu.  Beginilah jika terpaksa harus belanja mingguan, habis bagaimana dong kebutuhan rumah tanggakan harus tersedia selalu demi anak.  Mau tidak mau, lemas tidak lemas, ya sebagai ibu saya harus keluar rumah untuk membeli kebutuhan rumah tangga ini.  Kalau bukan saya terus siapa?

Belum Wajib Bagi Anakku Untuk Bisa Calistung!

Ini ada sebuah link mengenai patut was-wasnya kita sebagai orang tua yang akan memasukkan anaknya ke Sekolah Dasar yang mewajibkan persyaratan calistung  Masuk SD Harus Bisa Baca Tulis Patut Was-was

Saya sebagai orang tua murid juga sangat tidak setuju bila harus memaksakan anak saya yang baru berusia enam tahun untuk diharuskan bisa calistung.  Mengapa? karena setiap anak memiliki perkembangan kemampuan membaca, menulis, dan menghitungnya sendiri dengan cara natural.  Bukan sebuah kewajiban bagi orang tua memaksakan kehendak pada anak untuk menghitung, atau mengharuskan dia untuk belajar membaca, apalagi menulis.  

Saya pribadi lebih cenderung bersikap wajar dalam mendidik anak.  Tidak ngotot memaksakan kehendak supaya dia bisa membaca, tapi saya latih sedikit demi sedikit sesuai dengan kemampuannya.  Banyak ibu-ibu dilingkungan saya yang ngotot memaksakan anaknya untuk masuk calistung.  Tujuan mereka supaya anak mereka cepat-cepat bisa masuk ke Sekolah Dasar lebih awal.  Padahal jika saya pikir-pikir, kasihan sekali anak sekecil itu dipaksa untuk masuk ke Sekolah Dasar yang memang seharusnya standar usianya 7 tahun.

Untuk anak-anak seusia Darren anak saya, Taman Kanak-kanak itu adalah sekolah tempat ia bermain sambil belajar! Tujuannya adalah bermain!  Jadi biarkan saja anak-anak kita berkembang sesuai dengan kemampuan serta usianya.  Kan ada saatnya dia nanti mulai belajar serius, ya di Sekolah Dasar itu.  Yang saya lihat sih kebanyakan orang tua murid itu malas menunggu dan harus mengantarkan anaknya sekolah lama-lama di TK.  Itu alasan yang jelas-jelas egois!  Masa hanya karena kita enggan bersabar mengantarkan anak bermain disekolah, kita harus mempercepat langkah anak kita untuk masuk ke Sekolah Dasar sebelum waktunya?? Benar apa salah pola pikir seperti itu?

To All Women Who've Broken Heart..

A man broke his wife's heart into pieces but her reply to him was "I shall remember you not as the one who broke my heart but as the one who taught me how to live with a broken heart."

A Woman's Pray For Her Future Husband..

O Allah! Please grant me the one
Who will be the garment for my soul
Who will satisfy half of my deen
And in doing so make me whole

Make him righteous and on your path
In all he'll do and say
And sprinkle water on me at Fajr
Reminding me to pray

May he earn from halal sources
And spend within his means
May he seek Allah's guidance always
To fulfill all his dreams

May he always refer to Qur'an
and the Sunnah as his moral guide
May he thank and appreciate Allah
For the woman at his side

May he be conscious of his anger
And often fast and pray
Be charitable and sensitive
In every possible way

May he honor and protect me
And guide me in this life
And please Allah! Make me worthy
to be his loving wife

And finally, O Allah!
Make him abundant in love and laughter
In taqwa and sincerity
In striving for the hereafter

It Is Okay To Be Vulnerable

Never apologize for what you feel.

It is okay to be sensitive. It is okay to be "Emotional"

It is okay to to be sad, afraid or uncertain.

It's okay to cry.

It doesn't mean you are being negative.

It doesn't mean you are weak.

It takes great courage to be able to understand;

Accept and acknowledge what you feel.

Only then you can Face it, disempower it - and Let it go.

Never suppress your feelings because you are too afraid of

what others will "Think" of you.

You can Choose to make Positive Choices.

And Change your "Response-ablity" to your Feelings.

And Transform them into a Beautiful, Positive Power.

Beyond anything you have ever imagined.

You are stronger than you think.

Let the Love and Peace inside you, awaken.

Let Begin to Heal you.

Love yourself and have Faith in your Journey.

Life is waiting ... ♥

If You Don't Know..

If you don't know what is going on or where you are headed or what you are going to do- it is probably because right now you don't need to know... When you do know what to do - it is probably because it is time to know and the fruit is ready to be plucked.

Every moment is relevant. When lost and confused, be receptive, embrace the Mystery and be in the NOW as the Breath of Life - this is home to the Divine Feminine and because of her exile and suppression, we are not comfortable with the unknown or the power of just being, so consciously change that and love where you are, so that all that you are can be liberated from judgement! When you have clarity and direction - then embrace the Creative and make things happen!

No matter what way things swing - find your peace, because peace allows us to thrive and thriving means we embody our Wholeness and our Wholeness restores the World and ourselves ~ leave no aspect behind!

Happy Mother's Day..

Happy Mother's Day..to all mother's in the world..specially for every single mom in the world..here's a salut for you..warm wishes..God Bless You..

Love And Hugs

-Paramitha-

The Person You Choose To Be Your Partner

The person you choose to be your partner in life should be someone who will help you to do the right things and make the right decisions. Someone who can uplift you morally and who will always remind you that Allah is sufficient for you in times of trials. Someone who will remind you of Allah and the fact that you are going to stand in front of Him alone one day. Someone who helps you be a better and stronger you ♥

True Love By Bob Marley

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley

This is The Time

“Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting. Have faith that things will work out, maybe not exactly how you planned — but perfectly.” Unknown

Are you waiting for something to fall into place? Has there been something you have been trying to make happen and you want the time to come? Are you ready to see things work out?

Well, if you need a sign and some reassurance that everything will work out — then this is it.

This is the sign you have been looking for. This is the confirmation that everything you have been doing is working.
I know that when I am waiting on a result or for something to fall into place, I love getting signs – little whispers from the universe that I should keep going and that I am not crazy for continuing to believe. Sometimes when we have invested a lot of our time, energy and especially our heart into something, we want to be reassured we are moving in the right direction and that what we have worked so hard for is on its way.

Well, that is absolutely the case. More and more great things are going to come your way. Things are going to unfold perfectly for you.

Things Have A Way of Unfolding Perfectly

Because that’s the way process works. That is what is promised to us. When we have the right intentions, do things genuinely and invest the right amount of effort and time, things have a way of unfolding perfectly.

Granted, that may not mean they will unfold exactly as we planned, but when we step back and look at things from the right perspective, we will see they have unfolded perfectly and just the way we needed them to.

But, you’ve got to make sure you don’t get in your own way. You’ve got to keep the right type of mindset and have the right energy flowing to allow things to continue unfold.

So, today, make sure you have opened yourself up to all the great things you want that are just waiting to come your way.

The Possibility of Today

1. Live Today In The Best Way. Continually make sure you are making your highest and best decisions with everything. No needless drama or conflict with the people around you. Don’t let any distractions interfere with your peace of mind and good energy.

2. Love Today. Appreciate everything you have right now at this exact moment of time. As you move through the day, take notice and appreciate all the things that are already working in your life. Say, “thank you” as many times throughout the day as you can remember.

3. Keep Going and Believing. Reenergize yourself and keep going. Pour all your passion and energy into what you are doing. Do it in the best way that it can be done. Allow all your positive energy (and especially your heart) to flow into what you are doing and positively impact it.

4. Remind Yourself That Everything Unfolds Perfectly. If the “negative committee” in your mind starts acting up, remind yourself that everything is unfolding perfectly. Anytime you notice yourself doubting things or worrying, reel in those thoughts and remind yourself to trust the process and know that everything is unfolding just as it should.

Live Today Better than Yesterday.