Hari ini aku mencoba untuk melamar kerja di Novotel Hotel Bandung atas informasi dari sepupuku. Sepupuku ini bekerja di Novotel baru sekitar dua bulanan, di bagian HRD dan memberikan info mengenai sebuah lowongan sebagai front office. Semula aku ragu, biasanya hotel-hotel itukan mencari front office yang masih muda dan cantik, apakah aku masih pantas untuk posisi tersebut? Sepupuku sih berusaha meyakinkanku untuk mencobanya saja terlebih dahulu. Aku sih kurang yakin ya..tapi, akhirnya hari ini kukirim juga email lamaranku ke sana. Aku sih nggak berharap apa-apa namanya juga usaha. Kalau memang rejekiku ya Allah pasti akan membuka jalannya. Aku hanya bisa berdoa saja.
Monday, January 31, 2011
How To Get Him To Call You Back
It's sad, but not every guy you go out with will call you back. Unless, of course, you have the qualities of the kind of woman that every man is looking for. And I'm talking EVERY man – no exceptions! And I can teach you exactly HOW to be this woman in my "love primer"How come some men never call you back, even after having a fantastic date with you? Could it be that most men simply aren't interested in dating a woman more than once? Or is it because most men simply don't have what it takes to commit to a more serious relationship? Sadly, it's often even simpler than that. After years of studying men and relationships, I've realized that when men don't call you back, it's simply because they DON'T FEEL IT for you.
The date may have been fantastic for YOU, but there's no guarantee he felt the same way! Oh, and by the way -- texting him to call you back won't fix the problem. In fact, it'll even scare him away --likely because men don't like women who nag them, especially even after you've only had a grand total of ONE date so far! Here's the thing -- if he didn't call you back, then you may have done something during the date that turned him off.
It could be one of many things, but in today's newsletter, we'll be talking about the 3 of the biggest mistakes that we women make during the first date. Ready? Let's get started before your
NEXT date comes along!
MISTAKE #1 - TALKING WAY TOO MUCH!
It's true, even I'll admit it – we women love talking. We love sharing our experiences and telling stories to everyone we meet. It's THERAPEUTIC to us -- that's why we love meeting our girlfriends for hours
of girl talk, making everyone else in the cafe roll their eyes! The problem is that we tend to bring
this habit into our dates with men.
And as a result, we tend to talk way too much during the first date -- and he ends up listening to (or more accurately, putting up with) you droning on and on and on. Naturally, that turns him off -- WAY
off! If you want him to call you back after the date, you'll have to learn the art of LISTENING, too. After all, men like to talk, too -- and he may even have a few interesting stories to tell you.
So learn how to carry a conversation -- stop, listen, don't butt in with your own stories, and ask follow-up questions, encouraging him to finish his story! When he knows that you're a great person to talk to, he's going to feel more compelled to call you up after the date -- and even schedule a second date. Isn't that what you want to happen? ;)
MISTAKE #2 - YOU TALK ABOUT THE WRONG THINGS!
First dates are supposed to be fun, but that's not easy as it sounds. At the very beginning, things can be
pretty awkward, and that's why it's easiest to talk about the "little things" first -- such as where you
worked, what kind of job you guys had, etc. This if fine, of course -- except when you take the "introductions" a little too far. I'll explain with a story...A client of mine, let's call her "Penny," is currently a member of a politician's campaign team. Now you know how divisive American politics can be --and to be effective, you'll need to be as involved in politics as you can be. Penny's mistake was when she took her introductions a bit too far. After introducing herself as a politician's campaign manager, she went on to talk about her political views, the problems facing the country's political landscape... and many other boring things like that.
Needless to say, Penny's politics turned off all her dates. Penny was an attractive, confident woman -- but she simply didn't know how to carry a date. So when she told me about her problem, I advised her to lighten up, and use her experience in politics to her advantage during her first dates. For instance,
instead of introducing her job to the guy and then talking more about it, she could say something like:
"I'm a political campaign manager, but seriously, who likes politics? Why don't we talk about the WEATHER, instead?" Penny tried it on her very next date -- and got a wonderful response! In one swoop, she did three things right-- she avoided launching into a boring discussion, she tickled her date's sense of humor, and she gave the impression that she's fun and easygoing, which is something ALL men look for! So here's the takeaway -- focus on keeping the date fun. That's your best chance of getting him to call you back as soon as he gets home.
MISTAKE #3 - YOU LIKED HIM TOO MUCH!
Another client of mine, MI, was elated when the guy of her dreams asked her out to dinner. She had a swell time, and at the end of the date, the guy promised he'd call her again in a few days. But guess what? He never called. And finally, MI got fed up with waiting and called him herself. What he told her
shocked her to no end: "I don't think we're good for each other."
When MI told me her story, I asked her to give me every single detail. And when she did, I finally found the problem --she simply liked him too much, and she showed it during the date. She sat too close to him, she laughed at every single thing he said, and she never took her eyes off of him. Now, you'd think he'd appreciate the attention, right? Wrong!
Remember, guys go on first dates for FUN -- not to build a relationship. And MI made the mistake of thinking that the first date WAS the first step of their "future" relationship. So when the guy realized MI was actually in LOVE with him, he felt the pressure -- and left. But why did he promise to call MI back?
Simple -- to get away from her. It was the only way for him to end the date as politely as he could -- and then disappear.
Now I know how RUDE the guy may sound like, but trust me -- if you approach every date the way MI did, then don't expect too much. My advice to MI is the same advice I'm going to give you today -- don't push the relationship! Don't rush into the "next level" – just focus on having a great time with him. Focus on being fun, attractive, confident -- in other words, focus on being the woman that EVERY GUY is
looking for! -Alexandra Fox-
Sunday, January 30, 2011
My Little Sister
Well..I'm going to tell a little bit about my little sister. She's the youngest one in the family, and her name is Kinanti Ayu Fridayani. My parents gave her last name Fridayani, because she was born on friday 25 years ago. Between me and her there's a ten years gap in our age, that's why sometimes we cannot be too close to each other. But of course i love her no matter what. She is a sweet young lady, the lucky one who was born when my parents are all settled with their carrier. By the time she was born, we already have car, a house, everything that my parents had achieved. Not like me, i was born in the poor conditions when they still very young and poor experiences. Anyway..my sister is the smartest one in the family, she's also very polite, and kind. She had big eyes, and a tall height. I am so proud of her, though sometimes a little bit irritated with her stubborness, and ignorance attitude. She still cannot manage her own life, that's why she always got sick.
It's very different with me..by the age of 25 i can manage my own time, eventhough i lived alone in Jakarta. I can manage my money, and i always taken a very good care of myself because I knew, if I was sick noone can help me. Maybe she's acting the way she is because of mom and dad who likes to baby her all the time. She's supposed to learn from me, her sister. But well..eventhough we have the same blood, we still have our own unique character, different from each other. Next time, I'll tell you a little bit about my other siblings. The only boy in between us. Get well soon little sista. Godbless you..
My Bed Stories
Aku paling suka dengan tempat tidurku yang baru saja diganti sprei dan bed covernya. Bau harum seprai dan bed cover yang wangi serta bersih membuatku merasa nyaman dan sexy. Rasanya makin cinta aja diriku pada si tempat tidurku yang setia ini hehehe..Iya aku sayaang banget sama spring bed queenku ini, barang ini kalau saja punya nyawa pasti sudah tahu seluk beluk mengenai aku, sejarah apa saja yang terjadi di atas ini. Tidur diatasnya sangaaaat sangat nyaman, nggak pernah bikin badanku sakit. Yang ada hanya mimpi indah diatas bantal-bantal yang besar dan empuk hmmm..jadi kepingin bobo niy hehe..
Tempat tidurku ini adalah saksi bisu dari semua keadaanku, dari tangisanku, kebahagiaanku, rasa marahku, cuma dia yang tahu. Dia ini juga tempat yang paling nyaman untukku, aku kerja di komputer juga sambil duduk diatasnya, nonton tv, bercinta..ups maksudku dulu waktu aku masih menikah. Sudah lama juga lho dia ada dikamarku..mmh mungkin sudah tujuh tahunan ya, tapi lihat saja masih kuat dan nyaman, pegasnya pun masih utuh lho! padahal anakku sering sekali lompat-lompat diatasnya.. Hebat juga nih si queen sizeku ini. Tapi, ya gitu deh karena matrasnya ukuran 20cm yang tebal itu, aku agak kesulitan mencari seprai dengan ketebalan seperti itu, dan biasanya harganya agak mahal jika kualitas spreinya bagus.
Dulu aku suka belanja bahannya sendiri dan menjahitkannya di daerah tamim Bandung. Aku menyukai bahan seprai yang dingin dari katun mahal, karena menurutku seprai yang nyaman membantu memberi kita kualitas tidur yang baik. Setuju kan? Itu sebabnya aku nggak suka bahan murahan, yang kasar dan panas. Meskipun agak sedikit mahal tapi kalau kita menjahit sendiri, jatuhnya masih lebih murah dibanding harus membeli sprei kualitas Metro Dept. Store. Yah ini hanya sekelumit cerita mengenai barang-barang yang sangat berarti buatku. My special queen size bed..
Kupu-kupu..How to Attrack Butterflies Into Your Garden
Aku suka banget sama kupu-kupu, ini ide yang bagus untukku mengundang banyak kupu-kupu di tamanku..tapi apakah ada biji tanaman berikut di Indonesia?Butterflies, with their gorgeous colors and lilting flight, are such a joy to watch. They add so much beauty to our summers, like seeing flowers flying. It’s easy to invite more butterflies to make a seasonal stop in your yard. Find out which plants they just can’t resist—and learn a few fun facts about butterflies that you may not know. Here are 20 plants that will invite butterflies to your yard!
Asters: Late summer to fall.
Bee balm (bergamot): Summer through fall.
Butterfly weed: Summer through fall.
Clover (white or red): Summer to fall.
Coreopsis: Summer to fall.
Dianthus: Spring to fall.
Lavender: Summer.
Lupine: Late spring to early summer.
Mints: All summer.
Passionflower: Summer to fall.
Phlox: Summer to fall.
Purple coneflower: Summer to fall.
Sage: Summer to fall.
Salvia: Summer to fall.
Scabiosa “Butterfly blue”: Summer through fall.
Shasta daisy: Summer.
Thistle: Late spring through fall.
Violet: Spring.
Yarrow: Summer.
Butterfly Mythbusters
Have you ever heard that if you touch a butterfly, you’ll rub off the powder from its wings, and it will die? Or that if a butterfly gets a drop of water on it, it will drown? Ever hear that a torn or broken butterfly wing will grow back? And everyone knows that all butterflies go to Mexico for the winter, right? Actually, none of these statements is true! A lot of myths like these were probably started with the best intentions, so that people wouldn’t harm butterflies.
The truth is that butterflies have evolved to survive and thrive in extreme conditions. They exist everywhere in the world except for Antarctica. Butterflies are definitely stronger than they look: Many species migrate thousands of miles every year, and not just to Mexico!
Adapted from The Family Butterfly Book, by Rick Mikula.
Asters: Late summer to fall.
Bee balm (bergamot): Summer through fall.
Butterfly weed: Summer through fall.
Clover (white or red): Summer to fall.
Coreopsis: Summer to fall.
Dianthus: Spring to fall.
Lavender: Summer.
Lupine: Late spring to early summer.
Mints: All summer.
Passionflower: Summer to fall.
Phlox: Summer to fall.
Purple coneflower: Summer to fall.
Sage: Summer to fall.
Salvia: Summer to fall.
Scabiosa “Butterfly blue”: Summer through fall.
Shasta daisy: Summer.
Thistle: Late spring through fall.
Violet: Spring.
Yarrow: Summer.
Butterfly Mythbusters
Have you ever heard that if you touch a butterfly, you’ll rub off the powder from its wings, and it will die? Or that if a butterfly gets a drop of water on it, it will drown? Ever hear that a torn or broken butterfly wing will grow back? And everyone knows that all butterflies go to Mexico for the winter, right? Actually, none of these statements is true! A lot of myths like these were probably started with the best intentions, so that people wouldn’t harm butterflies.
The truth is that butterflies have evolved to survive and thrive in extreme conditions. They exist everywhere in the world except for Antarctica. Butterflies are definitely stronger than they look: Many species migrate thousands of miles every year, and not just to Mexico!
Adapted from The Family Butterfly Book, by Rick Mikula.
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Anjing Menggonggong Aku Berlalu..
Aku ini memang mungkin bukan orang yang ramah..mungkin orang mengira aku ini sombong, suka berpura-pura dan sebagainya hingga aku dijauhkan oleh mereka. Tapi mereka nggak tahu, bahwa aku ini memiliki kasih sayang yang sama seperti mereka menyayangi orang lain. Bahkan saudara sedarah pun, tidak peduli padaku. Betapa sedihnya aku, setiap aku menulis mengenai apa yang ada di benakku, tak ada satupun saudara atau teman yang memberikan atensinya di facebook. Aku merasa seperti orang yang tidak terlihat oleh siapapun, alias dicuekin. Salah apa aku pada mereka, hanya karena aku tertutup apakah orang bisa menilaiku sombong? Semakin mereka bersikap dingin padaku semakin akupun juga tidak akan peduli pada mereka.
Dimata keluargaku mungkin aku ini bukan orang yang baik. Bisa aku lihat dari sindiran-sindiran omku atau orang-orang tua yang lain. Mereka hanya melihat kelemahanku dan bukan memahami situasi yang tengah aku hadapi. Mereka seenaknya mengkritik apa yang kulakukan, dan mereka tidak pernah tahu perasaanku, mereka bukan aku! Mereka nggak tahu apa yang aku alami, tidak pernah merasakan hidup sendiri membesarkan anak, mereka nggak pernah tahu betapa sulitnya aku berusaha untuk mengatasi kehidupanku yang sudah berat. Aku tidak butuh komentar-komentar orang lain, aku butuh dukungan, support dan kasih sayang melebihi apapun, karena aku sendiri sudah merasa gagal dan hancur! Inikah yang aku dapatkan dari yang namanya keluarga? No emphaty at all!! All they know is just critisize, judging, pointing the wrong things, gossiping! Aku tidak butuh rasa kasihan dari orang lain..tapi aku juga manusia sosial, yang berharap diperhatikan secara tulus. Aku juga butuh dukungan dari keluarga tempat aku bergantung dan kembali, tempat dimana seharusnya aku menemukan kehangatan serta kasih sayang yang kuat melebihi siapapun! Tidak mudah untukku berteriak minta tolong..aku berharap keluarga terdekatlah yang tahu dan seharusnya menawarkan bantuannya untukku.. Setidaknya untuk meringankan bebanku. Aku betul-betul tidak tahu pada siapa aku harus berlari? Semua beban derita ini tidak sanggup aku tanggung sendirian. Aku tidak membutuhkan bantuan uang, aku hanya butuh seseorang yang mau mendengarkan semua gundahku. Teman yang mau dan tulus berempati pada semua deritaku.
Aku ini seperti orang yang sudah mati, terlupakan dan terabaikan oleh orang-orang yang masih hidup, padahal aku ini masih bernafas dan ada diantara mereka. Memang benar hanya sedikit orang yang punya jiwa yang murni dan bersih. Manusia yang memiliki hati nurani biasanya memang hidup terasing dan berada jauh diatas orang-orang kebanyakan. Paham maksudku? Orang-orang kebanyakan ada di level bawah, mereka yang masih mementingkan materi, tidak punya rasa empati, hanya bergumul dengan gosip-gosip murahan, membicarakan keburukan orang lain, saling memanfaatkan orang lain, dan merasa diri mereka lebih baik dari orang lain, mereka juga berkelompok dengan sejenisnya. Mereka tidak mampu menyamakan atau menjangkau orang yang levelnya sudah berbeda jauh diatas mereka. Orang-orang dengan tingkat spiritual yang tinggi tidak akan bisa turun kebawah berbaur dengan orang-orang dengan level yang masih rendah.
Orang-orang seperti ini cenderung merasa kesepian, karena satu-satunya tempat berdialog adalah dengan Tuhannya. Ah..aku sadar sekarang, mengapa mereka seperti itu. Karena levelku sudah jauh diatas mereka dan aku bersyukur pada Allah, karena aku lolos dari ujian beratnya. Aku percaya, semakin Allah mencoba kita, berarti tingkat keimanan kita padaNya semakin lebih baik lagi. Aku hanya lupa..bahwa aku akan menarik orang-orang yang sama levelnya denganku. Manusia-manusia yang kuat, dan tahan banting. Aku tidak lagi peduli, apa kata orang atau penilaian-penilaian orang tentangku, mereka orang-orang yang masih dangkal. Anjing menggonggong kafilah berlalu. Aku menjaga mulutku dari pembicaraan-pembicaraan yang tak berguna, aku menjaga hatiku dari iri dengki dan sirik, aku menjaga nama baikku dari fitnah orang-orang yang iri padaku, dan aku menjaga kehormatanku dari tangan-tangan jahil dan nafsu.
Jadi mau nyuekin aku ceritanya? oh nggak apa silahkan! sampai kapan kalian akan sadar, bahwa hal yang seperti itu tidak ada gunanya! Mulai sekarang aku akan memperlakukan kalian seperti kalian memperlakukan aku. Aku akan baik pada orang yang care padaku, dan bisa tidak peduli pada orang seperti kalian:) It's payback time people! I don't need your approval to be living..do you think i want your money? naah..who are you to jugde me? Life is too short to only think about matery! Ketika kalian mati, apa kalian akan bawa semua harta benda, keangkuhan, dan benda-benda yang kalian punya? Cuma amal kebajikanlah yang kalian bawa..Ingat itu. Lebih baik berlomba-lomba menabung kebaikan terhadap sesama ketimbang sombong memamerkan atau berbuat angkuh terhadap orang yang sedang kesulitan. Baru punya uang sedikit aja sudah blagu..gimana jadi jutawan kali yaa..somboongnya alaihim kali. Kasihan banget sih.!
Alhamdulillah atas pencerahan ini ya Allah..perasaanku semakin lebih baik sekarang. Terima kasih ya Allah..
Aku sombong ya? peduli amat..lebih baik diam, dari pada sombong karena miskin hati seperti orang-orang kebanyakan. weeekkss..peace ahh..hahahaha...
Are You Ready to Date Again?
By Esther Boykin - Thu, Jan 20, 2011 1:33 PM PST
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The ending of a long relationship is one of the most stressful events in life. Whether its divorce or simply breaking up with a boyfriend after many years together, the process is often excruciating. Suddenly going from part of an "us" to a "me" again sends most women reeling for a long time after you've said your last goodbye. And if breaking up wasn't hard enough now, after years of no practice, you have to make your way back into the dating pool. So what's a newly single girl to do when it comes to re-entering the dating world? Here are a few tips on how to get back into the swing of things.Let them Know You're Open for Business
One of the hardest parts of dating after a long period living in a relationship is simply opening the door for new partners. As part of a monogamous relationship, you learn how to disengage from the advances of other men. You try not to look too long in the direction of a handsome man or not to be too friendly with the cute guy in the grocery store. But now that you are single you are supposed to do these things; you are supposed to invite the advances of others. After years of focusing on that one special somebody it can be hard to figure out how to be engaging and flirtatious again. One of the simplest ways to start is by looking at your body language. Uncross your arms, look people in the eye and don't forget to smile... nothing invites flirting from a potential suitor like flashing a warm smile.
Update Your Wardrobe
One of the many things that people in relationships tend to neglect over time is their appearance. When the days of romantic date nights and dress-to-impress rendezvous have disappeared, usually so does the motivation to dress nicely. I have watched women who once planned every outfit down to the accessories easily slip into a daily uniform of ratty jeans and tee shirt in no time. Add in the stress of your break-up and any potential financial implications it had, it's a wonder you get dressed at all. But dating is about first impressions and everywhere you go is an opportunity to meet your next Mr. Right. So dig out some of your favorite old outfits or invest in some new looks and start dressing up again! Need some inspiration? Check out What I Wore Wednesdays (WIWW), one of my favorite recent blog discoveries. Started by Lindsey over at The Pleated Poppy, as a way to force her to put on something besides sweatpants every day, it's a fun concept that has women all over the internet photographing and sharing their outfits each week. The idea is great and fits perfectly here. Visit any of the blogs that participate in WIWW and get your style back in gear.
Take Care of Your Body
Now I know what you're thinking; of course I could stand to drop a few pounds before I start showing off my new wardrobe. But I want you to consider taking care of your body in a much broader view. Maybe you want to lose weight or tone up but taking care of your body should be about something much more important than looking good in a bikini. How you treat your body is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Exercise and eating right require effort but the rewards are immeasurable. Keeping your body healthy means reducing stress, increasing your overall health, and ultimately leads to you feeling more confident. When you make caring for yourself a priority you are telling the world that you are someone to be valued and will attract people that are ready to value you too. And if you are looking to increase your sex appeal, remember that nothing is sexier than a confident woman, no matter what her dress size.
Make Your List and Check it Twice
Coming out of a long-term relationship most people assume that you know exactly what you want, or don't want, in your next relationship. But the truth is that often times we leave one relationship and go running into another one full of the same issues just with a different looking guy. Use your post-break-up time to really assess the qualities that you are looking for in a relationship and in a partner. It's ok to say that you want a tall guy or one who has a good job but these aren't the most important criteria to consider. As you well know, looks do not help you compromise during a fight and while a big pay check makes for some nice vacations it won't make him funnier or more willing to help with the dishes. Take a look at what went wrong in your relationship and take stock of how things got that way including how you contributed to the problems. This is a time for reflection and self-growth. Make sure that your list of "must-haves" includes the qualities that you will bring to your next relationship not just what you hope your next partner will be like.
Hot Chocolate Cake
Ingredients- 8 tablespoons (1 stick) unsalted butter, plus extra for coating
- 3 tablespoons all-purpose flour, plus extra for dusting
- 1/2 cup sugar, plus extra for dusting
- 10 ounces semisweet chocolate, coarsely chopped
- 4 large eggs
- 1 large egg yolk
- 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 1/4 teaspoon salt
- 1/2 cup mini marshmallows
- 2 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
Directions
- Preheat oven to 375° F. Generously butter, flour, and sugar eight 6-ounce coffee cups or mugs made of ovenproof stoneware. Wipe the rims clean.
- Place the 8 tablespoons of butter and the chocolate in a medium heatproof bowl over a pan of simmering water and melt, stirring once or twice until smooth. Remove from heat and let cool 5 minutes.
- Using a handheld mixer, beat the eggs, yolk, vanilla, salt, and 1/2 cup sugar at the highest speed until the volume doubles and the mixture becomes foamy, about 5 minutes. Stir the 3 tablespoons of flour into the chocolate, then gradually add it to the egg mixture, beating on low until it's fully incorporated.
- Ladle the batter into each cup until it's about 1/2 inch from the rim. Bake until the cakes puff and begin to crack but the centers are still a bit runny, 13 to 17 minutes. Remove from oven. Sprinkle with marshmallows, then return to oven for 2 to 4 minutes, until the marshmallow tops begin to crisp. Remove from oven; let cool about 5 minutes. Sift the cocoa on top.
By Beth Pilar, February 2006
I'm Not A Superwoman..
Apa yang bisa kulakukan jika aku punya kekuatan super untuk membalas dendam? Paling aku hanya bisa membawanya terbang ke atas langit dan menjatuhkan orang ini hingga hancur jadi debu. Seandainya aku ini superwoman, aku pasti sanggup hidup sendiri. Tapi aku hanya seorang perempuan biasa, seseorang yang terlalu polos, dan mudah dimanipulasi. Kebaikanku tak pernah dihargai, yang ada aku ditinggalkan seperti seonggok sampah. Aku bukan superwoman, kalaupun iya..aku pasti sudah mengejarnya dan menyeretnya kedalam penjara karena telah mengkhianatiku. Tapi aku cuma seorang perempuan biasa, yang hanya punya kekuatan batin, dan bisa menangis tersungkur dengan bayi yang ada di pangkuanku ketika dia meninggalkan kami. Dia pikir aku cukup kuat untuk mengarungi kehidupan ini sendirian dengan anak yang harus aku hidupi dan kubesarkan? Pernahkah terlintas dihatinya bagaimana dengan perasaan anaknya? Pernahkah dia berpikir mengenai kebahagiaannya seperti anak lain dengan keluarga yang utuh?
Aku hanya bisa berdoa, agar Allah melihat setiap titik air mata yang menetes karena terzalimi dan berharap Ialah yang membalas semua kekejaman orang ini terhadapku dan juga anakku. Aku memang bukan superwoman, tapi aku sadar ternyata akulah the real superwoman karena aku tetap survive meskipun sudah jatuh dan keluar dari kawah candradimuka ini alive.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Falls Into The Dark Well
Noone knows what i've been through..
Noone knows how i feel..
Noone even cares about it.
People are selfish..this world is getting me down..
I'm in the pit of a dark well..where noone even knows
I screamed and nobody can hear me..
This place is creepy, cold and quiet..
So tired with this loneliness..
So tired of crying..
So tired of being lost forever..
Wishing God sending me His angels to comfort me..
To take me out from this dark pit of my life.
or at least give me some lights, a fire to make me warm,
and comfort blanket to sleep until someone rescue me
God..I almost given up..
If You want me to go through this hell, I will..
But please do not leave me..
To whom I can counting on besides You?
I'm sure you counting every tears that falls in my face..
For every pain that i felt..
For the loneliness that kills..
I'm waiting you to call me..
To let me in to the kingdom of heavens
Where there will be no sadness and pain
No heartache and disapointment
No loneliness and betrayal..
Only peace and love..
- Mitha-
Cinta Dapat Menghilangkan Rasa Sakit
Cinta tak hanya berpengaruh bagi batin seseorang. Penelitian membuktikan, rasa cinta juga dapat menyembuhkan rasa sakit pada fisik.
Istilah 'Cinta dapat mengalahkan segalanya' mungkin ada benarnya. Bukan hanya pengaruh emosional yang didapatkan saat seseorang tengah jatuh cinta, namun juga daya tahan fisik yang luar biasa.
Dikutip dari Genius Beauty, ratusan orang diminta menjadi objek penelitian. Telapak tangan mereka dipanaskan hingga tingkat kepanasan tinggi. Di saat yang sama, mereka juga diminta melihat foto orang yang dicintai.
Yang menarik, saat para objek penelitian itu melihat foto orang yang mereka cintai, rasa panas yang mereka rasakan semakin lama semakin berkurang.
Para peneliti mengambil kesimpulan bahwa rasa cinta dapat berfungsi seperti obat pengurang rasa sakit atau analgesik. Rasa cinta akan merangsang otak untuk mengurangi sensor area yang merasakan sakit. Tak hanya itu, rasa cinta juga juga dapat merangsang produksi hormon opamin, yang dapat menimbulkan rasa senang dan mood yang positif.
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Menikahi Janda..Mengapa Tidak?
Menikahi Janda..Mengapa Tidak?
Essay di blog ini mengenai Menikahi Janda benar-benar bagus, si penulis dengan rendah hati memaparkan pendapatnya mengenai problema yang dihadapi wanita seperti aku. Jujur aku terharu membacanya, merasa bahwa ternyata ada orang yang bisa memahami dan memandang positif kedudukan wanita tak bersuami.
Sebutan janda itu sendiri bagiku terdengar jelek. Apakah tidak ada bahasa indonesia lain yang bisa menggantikan kata-kata itu untuk sebutan wanita bercerai atau wanita ditinggal mati suami? Adakah bahasa yang lebih sopan untuk mengganti sebutan "janda" ini? Dan mengapa janda itu di samaratakan dengan golongan wanita-wanita yang harus dihindari? Tidak semua janda itu genit atau gatal! Sama sekali tidak adil menilai dan memandang rendah kaum wanita tak bersuami dengan cara-cara negatif seperti yang ada di mata masyarakat sekarang ini. Semoga link ini ikut membantu bloggers lain membuka mata mengenai kenyataan pahit para janda. Menikahi Janda..Mengapa Tidak?
Never Give up On Life
Lagi-lagi ini pelajaran berharga dariku yang ingin aku share ke bloggers yang membacanya. Ini tentang, bagaimana aku menjalani kehidupan yang berat dan masih survive InsyaAllah..Nggak perlulah aku ceritakan lagi cerita-cerita hidupku, yang terpenting inti dari pengalamanku-pengalamanku saja yang akan aku sampaikan. Hidup itu hanya fatamorgana, kesulitan-kesulitan yang kita hadapi terkadang sangat berat. Tapi percayalah Allah nggak pernah memberi cobaan pada umatnya melebihi kemampuan yang bisa ia tanggung.
Maka, Anggaplah kehidupan ini seperti menunggang seekor kuda. Kita berlari dengan cepat, dan terkadang tersandung dan jatuh dari pelana. Ketika kita jatuh rasanya sakit sekali, terkadang hanya lecet, tapi ada juga yang patah tulang dan cedera dalam. Tapi herannya kita masih hidup, dan kalau memang masih hidup itu berarti kita harus kembali ke atas pelana dan memacu kembali kudanya. Meskipun sakit yang diderita tapi kita tetap harus bertahan dan terus berjalan maju. Itu prinsip hidupku.
No matter how painful it is, life must go on..You tried your best to hang on, even though your feet shaken, and you are in the darkest time of your life. Never allowed darkness stays too long, there is a tiny light in every dark room. That lights is hope. The only thing can stop you from living is God. If God still want you to live, then He wants to see you to fight. For the sakes of eternal life in heaven, you just can't give up. Be strong..ini ada sebuah lagu yang menjadi inspirasi buatku untuk tetap bertahan dalam situasi apapun..Thank you Andy William for this inspiring songs.
To dream the impossible dream,
To fight the unbeatable foe,
To bear the unbearable sorrow,
To run where the brave dare not go,
To right the unrightable wrong,
to love pure and chased from a far,
To try when your arms are too weary,
To reach the unreachable Star,
This is my quest, to follow that Star,
No matter how hopeless, no matter how far,
To fight for the right, without question or pause,
To fight the unbeatable foe,
To bear the unbearable sorrow,
To run where the brave dare not go,
To right the unrightable wrong,
to love pure and chased from a far,
To try when your arms are too weary,
To reach the unreachable Star,
This is my quest, to follow that Star,
No matter how hopeless, no matter how far,
To fight for the right, without question or pause,
To be willing to march into Hell for a Heavenly cause,
And I know if I'll only be true to this glorious quest,
That my heart will lie peaceful and calm when I'm laid to my rest.
And the world will be better for this,
That one man scorned and covered with scars,
Still strove with his last ounce of courage,
To fight the unbeatable foe,
To reach the unreachable Star.
And I know if I'll only be true to this glorious quest,
That my heart will lie peaceful and calm when I'm laid to my rest.
And the world will be better for this,
That one man scorned and covered with scars,
Still strove with his last ounce of courage,
To fight the unbeatable foe,
To reach the unreachable Star.
Mencintai Seseorang
Selama ini aku mencari arti mengenai apa itu cinta. Seumur hidupku aku hanya mengenal pemahaman yang salah mengenai cinta. Aku pikir cinta itu hanya diutamakan dari bagaimana cara seseorang mencintaiku. Hanya itu fokusku..Aku selalu sibuk menganalisa dan memperhatikan cara orang lain yang dekat denganku dalam hal mencintaiku atau tidak, ketimbang melihat perasaanku sendiri apakah aku mencintainya? Dari kesalahanku mengenai konsep cinta itu sendiri, aku terjerumus pada sebuah pengambilan keputusan yang salah. Dulu aku menikah dengan seseorang yang aku pikir mencintaiku, dia baik, perhatian, lembut, serta mengayomi aku. Kupikir cinta sesederhana itu. Perasaanku pada orang ini sesungguhnya biasa saja, dan hubungan kami terbilang singkat hanya enam bulan hingga ia melamar. Karena aku percaya bila seorang wanita menolak lamaran yang datang, maka ia akan menjomblo selamanya membuatku khawatir. Akhirnya aku menikahinya dengan pertimbangan bahwa dia benar-benar sayang dan mencintaiku. Tapi ternyata pernikahan ini hanya seperti sebuah sandiwara dan kebohongan belaka. Pernikahan kami kandas pada saat anak kami lahir menginjak usia pernikahan memasuki tahun ke-empat.
Dari kondisi seperti itu, kemudian aku kembali mulai membuka diri untuk memiliki hubungan baru dengan orang lain dan perjalanan cintaku masih penuh dengan kerikil tajam. Mungkin karena aku belum siap secara emosional, karena luka perceraian masih belum pulih. Selalu bertemu dengan orang yang salah. Dalam perjalanan cintaku, aku masih tetap bertanya-tanya seperti apa sih cinta sejati itu? Mengapa manusia mudah sekali berubah perasaannya. Sampai disatu saat ketika aku bertemu dengan pria ini. Bagiku apa yang kurasakan ini juga bukan sesuatu yang nyata. Karena timingnya tidak tepat. Tapi si dia ini memiliki satu hal yang belum pernah aku rasakan terhadap orang-orang sebelumnya yaitu koneksi. Bersamanya, aku merasa happy, aku bisa menjadi diriku sendiri tanpa harus khawatir dia suka atau tidak. Dan yang lebih penting lagi, aku melihat ke dalam diriku sendiri mengenai perasaanku padanya Seperti menemukan sebuah jawaban yang selalu aku cari-cari. Dalam mencintai seseorang ada keinginan untuk selalu bersamanya, ingin selalu bisa mendampingi serta menemaninya, ingin juga memahami perasaan-perasaannya, merawatnya, memenuhi kebutuhan-kebutuhannya dan lain-lain. Seperti itulah perasaanku, belum pernah aku merasakan sebuah ketulusan yang datang dari hatiku untuk seseorang.
Tapi sayangnya, aku memang belum beruntung hehe..karena orang ini sudah ada yang mengurusnya dirumah. Oh..so sad! Nggak apa-apa kok, cinta memang tidak harus memiliki. Dengan peran seperti inipun aku bersyukur karena Allah membuka mataku bahwa cinta itu ya rasanya seperti ini. Rasa tulusmu untuk membahagiakan seseorang. Bukan bagaimana seseorang harus membahagiakanmu. Memang ada rasa sedih, tapi aku cukup positif bahwa kehidupan memang tak selalu memberi apa yang kamu inginkan. Aku masih bisa mengambil setiap hikmah dalam hidupku untuk selalu belajar. Tidak ada tangis, tidak ada penyesalan..yang ada ya hanya moving on..Ada hal-hal positif yang bisa aku ambil dari pertemuanku dengan orang ini. Aku jadi sadar, akan kelebihanku dan makin kuat karenanya. Aku belajar mengenai cinta juga dari dia. Maksudnya begini, aku berharap dia bisa belajar sesuatu dariku, dan begitu pun aku. Mencintai bagiku adalah keinginan untuk membahagiakan seseorang dan mensupportnya menjadi seseorang yang lebih baik lagi.
Secret #2
I need a STRONG men..
Who? siapa? Seseorang yang mampu memimpinku, seseorang yang bisa meluruskanku jika ia sadar akan kelemahanku, dan ketidaksempurnaanku. Ia adalah seseorang yang mampu menjadi pembimbing, pengayom, serta pelindung bagiku. Seseorang dengan image Allah yang berkarakter kuat, tegas, tetapi lembut hati dan penyayang. Kalau boleh aku singkat, dia harus bisa lebih galak dariku. Dia harus bisa menaklukkan sifatku yang keras kepala, dan angkuh. Karena aku percaya, pria ditakdirkan untuk menjadi pemimpin. Bukan wanita yang memimpin. Kalau ada seorang wanita yang lebih dominan daripada suaminya..bagiku berarti pria tersebut belum memiliki keimanan yang teguh sebagai seorang pria. Seorang pria dengan ketaatan yang baik terhadap Allah SWT, akan mampu menjadi pemimpin bagi istri dan anak-anaknya, karena keyakinan dan rasa percaya dirinya pada tuntunan Allah SWT. Ia memiliki pegangan agama yang baik, serta nilai-nilai luhur kehidupan termasuk juga arti dan nilai dalam membangun sebuah keluarga yang bahagia. Seorang pria yang sholeh=pria yang kuat. Siap menerima tantanganku?
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