Prophet Muhammad

I know a man who lost his parents but refused to be called an orphan. He was man enough to love a strong woman years older than him, worked for her and made her stronger, opened his heart to her, shared his fears to no one but her. He was romantic and was faithful to her till her last breath. Cleaned after himself and sewed his own clothes. He was good looking, courageous and fearless. He never judged anyone on their pasts or looks, and was moderate, open minded and tolerant. His neighbor was Jewish and his cousin-in- law was a Christian priest. Beaten and exiled when he was helpless, he was merciful when he became stronger. Intelligent, wise and a hard worker, he built a long lasting nation out of nothing in the last 20 years of his life. He had no parents, but loved his daughters and grandchildren. His last will was "Be good to women". This man was a mercy for all mankind,this is my Nabi Muhammad. صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ

A Note To Myself

Menjadi diri yang lebih baik setiap detik, tiap saat, dan setiap harinya.  Sepertinya ringan, tapi dibutuhkan tekad dan komitmen yang berkelanjutan, saya pasti bisa. - P.S-

Kata-kata yang halus membangkitkan semangat dan kasih sayang seseorang.  Kata-kata kasar dan kejam tidak akan membawamu kemana-mana melainkan kepedihan. - P.S-

Find Someone Who Love You

Find someone that falls in love with your flaws, learns from your mistakes, helps you throughout your problems, supports you in your hardest moments and feels proud about your achievements.

Belajar Menerima Dan Memberi Nasihat

Orang bijak adalah orang yang mau mendengar nasihat baik dari orang lain terlepas apakah nasihat itu menyakitkan baginya atau tidak.  Karena pada dasarnya hanya orang yang peduli yang mau mengingatkan sahabatnya menuju kebaikan.  Nasihat baik adalah bukti kasih sayang seseorang terhadap sesamanya agar mereka tidak harus melalui jalan yang berliku dan sakit dengan mempelajari pengalaman orang lain.

Orang yang menasihati itu biasanya adalah guru yang memiliki banyak pengalaman hidup yang berharga yang bisa dia beri sebagai contoh bagi sesamanya.  Orang yang bijak itu apabila dinasihati dia akan bersyukur dan sangat menghargai masukan-masukan dari seseorang dan yang jelas memikirkan apa yang dikatakan oleh si penasihat.  

Intinya adalah..tidak ada kata-kata yang jujur dan baik yang akan membawa kita pada kerugian.  Karena orang yang bijaksana adalah orang yang mau membagi ilmu dan pengalamannya gratis atas dasar kasih sayang.  Sayangnya, banyak orang yang terlalu sombong dan gengsi menerima masukan-masukan baik dari orang lain.  Tapi yang kuketahui adalah, bahwa memang yang namanya manusia itu belajar dari kehidupannya sendiri, entah itu harus dengan jalan yang berliku jatuh kedalam kubangan dan sebagainya.  Tapi orang pintar dan bijak itu menjalani hidupnya lebih ringan karena mau melihat dan belajar dari kesalahan orang lain.

Maaf yaa..mungkin bagi sebagian orang memang ada yang belum memahami apa yang aku coba sampaikan.  Tapi aku yakin pada saatnya nanti pasti seiring dengan bertambahnya tingkat kedewasaan seseorang, dia akan setuju dengan pemahamanku.  Mungkin banyak orang yang berpikir aku ini orang yang sombong, terlalu sok tahu.  Padahal sejujurnya, dengan rendah hati aku ingin sekali menyebarkan niat baik kepada orang-orang yang aku sayangi.  Buat aku pribadi, jika aku dinasihati seseorang itu adalah pertanda dia peduli dan tulus pada kita karena dia sayang.  Tapi, jika kita didiamkan saja oleh orang lain, itu tandanya mereka tidak peduli.  

Makanya, selama ada seseorang yang menasihati kita harusnya kita tersenyum padanya dan mengatakan terima kasih karena dia masih peduli pada kita dan ingin yang terbaik bagi kita.  Dulu ada sebuah kenangan dari seseorang, dimana suatu ketika dia memarahiku di telepon sambil mengingatkan aku tentang sesuatu.  Bukannya jadi defensif, aku malah justru makin sayang sama dia karena menasihatiku.  Yah setiap orang memang beda-beda sifat sih ya.  Ada yang sok, ada juga yang humble..it depends on them people.  Ada yang sudah berkali-kali di beri petunjuk tapi tetap keras kepala pura-pura tidak tahu. Ada yang dewasa diberi tahu dan dia mau mengambil pelajaran dari kata-kata orang lain.

Tapi untuk yang memberi nasihat, ini catatan untuk diriku sendiri karena berhubung aku ini memang orangnya terkadang suka meledak-ledak jika sedang berbicara, yaitu belajar memberi nasihat dengan kata-kata yang manis, selalu ingat perasaan orang yang ada dihadapan kita.  Bisa jadi niat baik kita diterima berbeda dengan telinga dia.  Maksud hati ingin mengingatkan tapi bagi dia yang dinasihati seperti sebuah kritikan tajam. 

Padahal jika mau dicerna, sebuah kritikan tajam pun terkandung hal yang positif.  Hanya saja jika cara penyampaiannya menggebu-gebu akan menjadi terdengar kasar dan orang tidak suka cara itu makanya mereka seringkali defensif.  Aku juga belajar, bahwa menasihati hanya jika diminta.  Tapi kadang-kadang ketika kita berbincang atau berkomunikasi dengan seseorang, yang namanya sharing pengalaman dengan teman-teman otomatis terselip juga kan kata-kata nasihat itu?  Apa ini memang karakterku saja yang memang suka memberi nasihat kepada orang-orang terdekatku?

Banyak sekali orang-orang yang tidak suka denganku, mungkin bagi mereka aku terkesan sombong, sok iye, sok pinter, atau sok yang lain.  Padahal mereka itu memang tidak kenal dekat denganku, orang yang dekat denganku pasti akan memahami karakterku yang memang seperti ini dan menerimaku apa adanya. Ya caraku berbicara yang berapi-api, bawel, suka sok menasihati, suka menyindir, dan menilai orang lain. Menyebalkanlah istilahnya bagi mereka.  Tapi mereka hanya melihat sisi luarnya saja, apa yang mereka dengar dan apa yang mereka lihat. Mereka tidak mau dan tidak melihat apa yang ada di balik hatiku.      

Ya sudah silakan saja deh..terserah mereka mau menjalani hidup ini dengan cara apa.  Manusia itu punya free will kok.  Aku juga tidak bisa memaksa jalan hidup orang lain, tapi..bagi diriku sendiri menjadi guru bagi orang lain itu adalah tujuan yang mulia.  Selama kita memiliki NIAT BAIK.  Inti dari kehidupan yang baik adalah NIAT BAIK.  itu saja..

The strongest love is the love that can demonstrate it's fragility. - Paulo Coelho-

Loneliness

“Don't surrender your loneliness so quickly.
Let it cut you more deep.
Let it ferment and season you
as few humans and even divine ingredients can.
Something missing in my heart tonight has made my eyes so soft, my voice so tender, my need for God absolutely clear.”

ღ✿ Hafiz

I Have Learned

I’ve learned-
that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned-
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned-
that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned-
that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

I’ve learned-
that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.

I’ve learned-
that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.

I’ve learned-
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I’ve learned-
that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I’ve learned-
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned-
that you can keep going long after you can’t.

I’ve learned-
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I’ve learned-
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned-
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I’ve learned-
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned-
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I’ve learned-
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I’ve learned-
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned-
that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned-
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned-
that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned-
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned-
that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I’ve learned-
that your family won’t always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren’t biological.

I’ve learned-
that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned-
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned-
that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.

I’ve learned-
that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned-
that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I’ve learned-
that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I’ve learned-
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned-
that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I’ve learned-
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I’ve learned-
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I’ve learned-
that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned-
that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.

I’ve learned-
that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

By Omer B. Washington

Men Should Read This..

For any men who are having a hard time with the influx of the Divine Feminine and Venus energy, or who are still holding on to the old Ego conditioning of control and dominance - you can rest assured that it is not about Women taking over, it is about Union, the Heart, and restoring her position, as she brings balance, justice, transformation, nurturing, wisdom and intuition to our Earthly experience.

This force is what awakens the Divine Masculine, who can feel safe to let that old paradigm programing go, because he knows that without her being in her true position of power, we will not be able to survive. He also knows that she exists within him, as he exists within her.

He is not threatened by her power - because they are a team. As she inspires him, he impregnates her ethereally with the vision of a peaceful world, that gets anchored by their Alchemical union, planting seeds in the depths of darkness to create new realities, purifying the Mother Womb into the Creative Cauldron of Regeneration, as the power of their intention and devotion, kicks out all those who inhabit her realms, those who steal energy and rob souls, to feed their dark agendas.

It restores the divine templates and inner divine blueprint, bringing all creatures, beings and elements into a conscious knowing breath of Oneness. IT re-awakens the true Cosmic Dance that doesn't need to struggle with power games, but instead truly honors the beauty of their movements together, as it acts as force-field of light and protection around all those who choose to know this within.

IT repairs the divorce, the separation, the corrupted gender roles that exploit the body and all that is Sacred, damaging self-worth, integrity, access to higher consciousness and the ability to initiate oneself organically into a place of self-acceptance, integrity, honor and co-creation with Gaia and Cosmic Forces...

So Men, do not feel threatened by the energies that are increasing and expanding ~ and Women - don't fear your power because you remember being persecuted or killed in the past. Lets truly love and respect one another. This is our time to Rise together as One!

Lihat Kebunku

I Love You...

I can't promise you the world,
But I can try to give you a happy life.
I can't promise you I'll never make mistakes,
But I can try the best I can.
I can't promise you that I'll catch you every time you fall,
But I can try to always be close by so I can help you back up.
I can't promise that our love will last forever like in storybooks,
But I can promise that no matter what, I'll never forget the memories I made with you.........

~unknown~

To someone..

Keep On Believing

Birthday Girl..

Hari ini usiaku 36 tahun.  Tahun berlalu dengan cepatnya dan kini aku semakin dewasa dan merasa semakin tua..Orang bijak mengatakan bahwa wanita itu sedang seksi-seksinya di usia 30 an, seksi karena passionnya pada dunia dan kehidupannya.  Dia semakin sadar pada apa yang diinginkannya dan cerdas karena pengalamannya. 

Aku bahagia sekali pada ulang tahunku hari ini, aku dikelilingi oleh teman-teman yang baik, yang sayang padaku dan juga peduli.  Pelajaranku yang berarti adalah, kita dapat melihat siapa teman yang tulus dan benar-benar baik hati dari caranya mereka menyampaikan doa bagi kita yang berulang tahun.  Mau dia kenal dekat dengan kita ataupun tidak.  Tapi ada juga sebagian dari mereka yang meskipun kenal, tapi mereka acuh saja pura-pura tidak tahu dan tidak peduli.  Bagiku sih bukan hal penting jika mereka berlaku seperti itu, bagiku teman seperti itu sih aku anggap ya iri dan dengki saja denganku:)  

Bukan masalah mengharap di beri ucapan selamat ya..tapi bagiku kita bisa melihat siapa teman kita yang benar-benar baik hati.  Itu saja sih.  Bagiku, mengucapkan atau tidak itu mencerminkan siapa mereka  yang sebenarnya.  Fokusku hanya pada teman-temanku yang baik hati saja.  Dan hari ini teman-temanku yang baik hati itu datang ke rumah membawa sedikit kejutan untukku..A birthday cake!

Aku bersyukur pada Allah, disaat aku mengira aku sendiri di dunia ini..ternyata dibukakan mataku bahwa ada teman sejati yang masih peduli denganku.  Teman-teman yang masih mau menyempatkan waktu dan mengingat hari istimewaku.  Sebuah hadiah yang tak ternilai dari Tuhan.  Didalam doaku, aku menyampaikan rasa syukurku bahwa aku masih diberi kesempatan hidup hingga detik ini, dikasihi oleh orang-orang terdekat yang mencintai aku.  Serta masih bisa berbagi nasi kuning sederhana dengan sahabat-sahabatku.  Alhamdulillah..

 Kemarin, aku sempat berharap ada yg mau memberiku sebuah birthday cake..now voila! it's in front of me!:-) xixixi..cherrynya sudah kumakan duluan tuh..

 With my besties..I love them all:)

 Owh come on ladies..do i have to blow the candle? Hmm..my wishes..are..

Jamuan ulang tahun yang sederhana.  Simple tapi bahagia makan siang bersama teman-temanku tercinta

Kepada teman-temanku tercinta yang telah mengucapkan birthday wishes untukku..Terima kasih banyak atas doa-doa yang kalian panjatkan untukku.  Meski tak ada kata-kata yang terucap langsung dari bibirku, ketahuilah aku sangat menyayangi dan menghargai keberadaan kalian dalam hidupku.  Allah memberkati kalian semua.  Dan Mitha..be strong, be wise, be loveable, be a good mother and be autiful..:)

A Wise Word From Prabu Siliwangi

Laki-laki akan sukses bila memiliki seorang kekasih dihatinya, tapi laki-laki akan gagal bila hatinya ada dimana-mana. - Prabu Siliwangi-

Note: Prabu Siliwangi adalah raja dari kerajaan Padjajaran.

The Present Wrapping Oracle

You Are Confident

You go all out when you give gifts. You want to give a present that will wow, even if it's a little over the top. You are spontaneous and impulsive. You tend to do things quickly, and you're quite impatient. You are somewhat organized, but you always feel like you could be doing a bit better! You have high standards for yourself. You love to dress up and take care of yourself. You get a lot of confidence from looking sharp.

The Present Wrapping Oracle

The Birthday Cake Test

You Are Outrageous and Optimistic

You are the type of person who lives life to the fullest. You believe in going big or going home. You aren't shy about what you want, and you aren't afraid to get it either. You really go for it! You have a bold personality, and you tend to be attracted to anything or anyone who is over the top. You are open minded, and you have eclectic taste. You truly can appreciate all the flavors of the world.

The Birthday Cake Test

Tomorrow is my birthday!  wanna blackforest cake like this!

What Thousand Dollar Shoe Are You?

You Are an Elegant and Magnetic Shoe

You are convincing and magnetic. Persuasion is an art form for you. You are fascinating and alluring. People are definitely interested in what's going on in your life. You shine when it comes to negotiating conflict. You can craft win-win situations. You like to let loose but you always maintain your composure. You are always classy.

What Thousand Dollar Shoe Are You?

The Wedding Cake Test

You Are a Low Key Wedding

Love makes you feel calm and at peace. Simply being around those you care for brings out the best in you. To be unloved would make you feel like there was something missing in your life. You'd survive it, but you would have a lonely existence. For you, romantic love is steady and undying. You've gotten to the point in your life where commitment matters a lot to you. When you love someone, you are prepared to be there for that person... for better or worse. Whether you're married or not, you're completely true.

The Wedding Cake Test

People Who Never Leave You

A Beautiful Woman