Monday, January 31, 2011
Cute Kitchen
Aku suka dapur yang bersih, tapi nggak begitu suka model modern yang kesannya kaku seperti dirumah modern. Bagiku dapur yang lucu dan colourful bikin semangat untuk memasak. Contohnya dapur seperti ini nih..
Girl's Room
Ini untuk nanti jika aku punya gadis kecil dirumah, pilihan kamar anak perempuan ternyata lebih banyak dan bervariasi..Cekidot.
Finding Job
Hari ini aku mencoba untuk melamar kerja di Novotel Hotel Bandung atas informasi dari sepupuku. Sepupuku ini bekerja di Novotel baru sekitar dua bulanan, di bagian HRD dan memberikan info mengenai sebuah lowongan sebagai front office. Semula aku ragu, biasanya hotel-hotel itukan mencari front office yang masih muda dan cantik, apakah aku masih pantas untuk posisi tersebut? Sepupuku sih berusaha meyakinkanku untuk mencobanya saja terlebih dahulu. Aku sih kurang yakin ya..tapi, akhirnya hari ini kukirim juga email lamaranku ke sana. Aku sih nggak berharap apa-apa namanya juga usaha. Kalau memang rejekiku ya Allah pasti akan membuka jalannya. Aku hanya bisa berdoa saja.
How To Get Him To Call You Back
It's sad, but not every guy you go out with will call you back. Unless, of course, you have the qualities of the kind of woman that every man is looking for. And I'm talking EVERY man – no exceptions! And I can teach you exactly HOW to be this woman in my "love primer"How come some men never call you back, even after having a fantastic date with you? Could it be that most men simply aren't interested in dating a woman more than once? Or is it because most men simply don't have what it takes to commit to a more serious relationship? Sadly, it's often even simpler than that. After years of studying men and relationships, I've realized that when men don't call you back, it's simply because they DON'T FEEL IT for you.
The date may have been fantastic for YOU, but there's no guarantee he felt the same way! Oh, and by the way -- texting him to call you back won't fix the problem. In fact, it'll even scare him away --likely because men don't like women who nag them, especially even after you've only had a grand total of ONE date so far! Here's the thing -- if he didn't call you back, then you may have done something during the date that turned him off.
It could be one of many things, but in today's newsletter, we'll be talking about the 3 of the biggest mistakes that we women make during the first date. Ready? Let's get started before your
NEXT date comes along!
MISTAKE #1 - TALKING WAY TOO MUCH!
It's true, even I'll admit it – we women love talking. We love sharing our experiences and telling stories to everyone we meet. It's THERAPEUTIC to us -- that's why we love meeting our girlfriends for hours
of girl talk, making everyone else in the cafe roll their eyes! The problem is that we tend to bring
this habit into our dates with men.
And as a result, we tend to talk way too much during the first date -- and he ends up listening to (or more accurately, putting up with) you droning on and on and on. Naturally, that turns him off -- WAY
off! If you want him to call you back after the date, you'll have to learn the art of LISTENING, too. After all, men like to talk, too -- and he may even have a few interesting stories to tell you.
So learn how to carry a conversation -- stop, listen, don't butt in with your own stories, and ask follow-up questions, encouraging him to finish his story! When he knows that you're a great person to talk to, he's going to feel more compelled to call you up after the date -- and even schedule a second date. Isn't that what you want to happen? ;)
MISTAKE #2 - YOU TALK ABOUT THE WRONG THINGS!
First dates are supposed to be fun, but that's not easy as it sounds. At the very beginning, things can be
pretty awkward, and that's why it's easiest to talk about the "little things" first -- such as where you
worked, what kind of job you guys had, etc. This if fine, of course -- except when you take the "introductions" a little too far. I'll explain with a story...A client of mine, let's call her "Penny," is currently a member of a politician's campaign team. Now you know how divisive American politics can be --and to be effective, you'll need to be as involved in politics as you can be. Penny's mistake was when she took her introductions a bit too far. After introducing herself as a politician's campaign manager, she went on to talk about her political views, the problems facing the country's political landscape... and many other boring things like that.
Needless to say, Penny's politics turned off all her dates. Penny was an attractive, confident woman -- but she simply didn't know how to carry a date. So when she told me about her problem, I advised her to lighten up, and use her experience in politics to her advantage during her first dates. For instance,
instead of introducing her job to the guy and then talking more about it, she could say something like:
"I'm a political campaign manager, but seriously, who likes politics? Why don't we talk about the WEATHER, instead?" Penny tried it on her very next date -- and got a wonderful response! In one swoop, she did three things right-- she avoided launching into a boring discussion, she tickled her date's sense of humor, and she gave the impression that she's fun and easygoing, which is something ALL men look for! So here's the takeaway -- focus on keeping the date fun. That's your best chance of getting him to call you back as soon as he gets home.
MISTAKE #3 - YOU LIKED HIM TOO MUCH!
Another client of mine, MI, was elated when the guy of her dreams asked her out to dinner. She had a swell time, and at the end of the date, the guy promised he'd call her again in a few days. But guess what? He never called. And finally, MI got fed up with waiting and called him herself. What he told her
shocked her to no end: "I don't think we're good for each other."
When MI told me her story, I asked her to give me every single detail. And when she did, I finally found the problem --she simply liked him too much, and she showed it during the date. She sat too close to him, she laughed at every single thing he said, and she never took her eyes off of him. Now, you'd think he'd appreciate the attention, right? Wrong!
Remember, guys go on first dates for FUN -- not to build a relationship. And MI made the mistake of thinking that the first date WAS the first step of their "future" relationship. So when the guy realized MI was actually in LOVE with him, he felt the pressure -- and left. But why did he promise to call MI back?
Simple -- to get away from her. It was the only way for him to end the date as politely as he could -- and then disappear.
Now I know how RUDE the guy may sound like, but trust me -- if you approach every date the way MI did, then don't expect too much. My advice to MI is the same advice I'm going to give you today -- don't push the relationship! Don't rush into the "next level" – just focus on having a great time with him. Focus on being fun, attractive, confident -- in other words, focus on being the woman that EVERY GUY is
looking for! -Alexandra Fox-
Sunday, January 30, 2011
My Little Sister
Well..I'm going to tell a little bit about my little sister. She's the youngest one in the family, and her name is Kinanti Ayu Fridayani. My parents gave her last name Fridayani, because she was born on friday 25 years ago. Between me and her there's a ten years gap in our age, that's why sometimes we cannot be too close to each other. But of course i love her no matter what. She is a sweet young lady, the lucky one who was born when my parents are all settled with their carrier. By the time she was born, we already have car, a house, everything that my parents had achieved. Not like me, i was born in the poor conditions when they still very young and poor experiences. Anyway..my sister is the smartest one in the family, she's also very polite, and kind. She had big eyes, and a tall height. I am so proud of her, though sometimes a little bit irritated with her stubborness, and ignorance attitude. She still cannot manage her own life, that's why she always got sick.
It's very different with me..by the age of 25 i can manage my own time, eventhough i lived alone in Jakarta. I can manage my money, and i always taken a very good care of myself because I knew, if I was sick noone can help me. Maybe she's acting the way she is because of mom and dad who likes to baby her all the time. She's supposed to learn from me, her sister. But well..eventhough we have the same blood, we still have our own unique character, different from each other. Next time, I'll tell you a little bit about my other siblings. The only boy in between us. Get well soon little sista. Godbless you..
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